My experiences being in an Ashram in the South of India:
1) Touching the feet of the Guru, really not my thing. Luckily Sai Baba told me personally that He does not want me to do that (+ reason why
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2) Flat prostration on the floor, though when the floor is cold in hot India that part I did not mind. Again Sai Baba made clear "not for you"
3) Men and women separated, not a little, like "miles" apart. Of course sleeping apart, living apart, eating apart, even lining up for Darshan apart
The last one was also meant for me
. Though Sai Baba was kind enough to send beautiful damsels to me all the time, so that I slowly could adjust
Of course, after reading about Indian culture I understood why they did what they did, hence my judgments were gone rather soon, and I could even appreciate their culture. And after staying for ca. 10 years in the Ashram it felt like home (still not doing the flat prostration and feet touching of course)
Good part of the Ashram routine was, that all were free to participate. So, many Westerners went flat on the floor also. And the Teaching of Sai Baba was very clear. Though worship is useful in the beginning, the end goal is to find the Divine inside.
I have participated in quite a few worship services also. And that was very useful for me. Because when I came there fresh from Holland, I was quite arrogant, and judgmental towards these practices. I thought that the path of Jnana (wisdom) was superior than Bhakti or Karma. And I had to learn that there is no such thing like "my path is superior than yours" when one wants to understand the Divine a little.
So, all these different cultural worships I see now as a good thing, they taught me to introspect and reflect on my thoughts, words, deeds (judgments)
I see no need to change things. I rather focus on changing "myself". That is already hard enough.