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Two notable **** ups

Discussion in 'Family and Personal Living' started by Kangaroo Feathers, Apr 15, 2019.

  1. Kangaroo Feathers

    Kangaroo Feathers Hardline moderate

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    When I was born, my father bought me a case of Grange Hermitage wine, which is a pretty big deal if you're a wine person. I turned 41 this year, and over time the case has dwindled with weddings, birthdays, funerals, you know, momentous stuff that warrants cracking an expensive bottle of wine. My Dad has a proper climate controlled cellar and all, so my brother and I keep our "birthday Grange" at Mum and Dad's place. Anyway, we opened the second to last bottle at Christmas past, and I brought the last bottle home with me from my parents' place, where it has sat in one of those travel/gifty wine tube-y things.

    Today is our 7th wedding anniversary. To celebrate, my lovely lady wife and I decided to open my Grange and make a kid free night of it. So. I pick up the gifty tube-y thing, spin around, the metal end cap pops out, and out rockets a $500 bottle of 40 year old wine, right onto the tile floor.

    So there's **** up 1. What can you do but shrug and say "what can you do?" right? So, I went and bought a $17 dollar bottle from the local bottle shop, we had wine and cheese and watched a movie and it started looking like the sort of evening in-10-years-we'll-look-back-and-laugh about.

    Now, lovely lady wife has to go to work earlier than me, so she went to bed and I sat up pottering as I do. Then it occurs to me "Hey! Smashed a $500 bottle of wine! What a great story for RF! Too bad I didn't get a photo of it smashed on the floor, that would have really sold it... but wait!" thinks I, " the shattered pieces of glass and the mopped up wine is in a bucket by the front door! I can take a photo of that! That will be just as good"

    So here comes **** up number 2... I am a PC guy. I am writing this to you from PC as we speak. My mobile phone does not take good pictures. I have tried and failed endless times trying to get anything other than potato quality with my phone. So, to get a decent picture, I decided to use my lovely lady wife's iPad, because say what you will about Apple, they put a decent camera in their product. It's been a long time common place in our marriage that electronic devices can be shared. We both have "our own", but we both know each other's PINs and stuff, and we'll often use each others' gear when appropriate. So, I grab the iPad, go to the bucket, put in the pin code, and right there in the centre of the screen...

    "Oh god I need you here right now! I would lick you from your **** to your **** for hours"

    Yeah. She's been having an affair with this guy for almost a year. Tonight was the first time I unlocked the iPad and she hadn't deleted their sexting session.

    TL;DR First I smashed a $500 bottle of 40 year old wine, then I smashed my marriage. Happy anniversary to me!
     
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  2. Lyndon

    Lyndon "Peace is the answer" quote: GOD, 2014
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    ouch!!
     
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  3. Enoch07

    Enoch07 It's all a sick freaking joke.
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    Sorry to hear that. Take screenshots, send them to your lawyer. File for divorce, since you can prove infidelity you have a good chance at retaining everything you own and she walks away with very little. Worse case scenario it's a 50/50 split.

    After that go enjoy your life doing whatever it's that you like doing.

    Do not try to reconcile. There is no forgive and forget. Once a cheater always a cheater. Sever ties quickly and cleanly as possible, with as little communications and contact as possible.

    Then move on with your life.
     
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  4. Ellen Brown

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    I am sorry for your pain.
     
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  5. Daemon Sophic

    Daemon Sophic Avatar in flux

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    I am sorry to hear that man.
    Best of luck to you and your kids.
     
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  6. Revoltingest

    Revoltingest Greased up & ready for action!
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    $500 a bottle, eh?
    Two buck Chuck is my limit.
    (Of course inflation has made that nickname dated.)
    Anyway, you have my condolences for the 2nd **** up.
     
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  7. SomeRandom

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    Ouch, that sucks.


    :eek: Well that escalated quickly.

    Seriously though, sorry for your pain man. Hopefully you can find a more deserving partner and an even more expensive bottle of wine.
     
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  8. shmogie

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    Sorry for you, truly. I suggest you switch to beer.
     
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  9. David1967

    David1967 Well-Known Member
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    That really sucks. I know, I've been there. It hurts, but it gets better over time. Hang in there.
     
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  10. Brickjectivity

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    No advice here except consider seeing a marriage counselor. Also the person who interferes in your marriage is liable and can be sued over it.
     
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  11. We Never Know

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    Sorry you are going through that. Hoping the best for your family.
     
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  12. beenherebeforeagain

    beenherebeforeagain Rogue Animist
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    Very sorry to hear that.

    But it wasn't you who dropped your marriage...
     
  13. Subduction Zone

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    So sad to hear. Is the marriage worth saving? It sounds as if you have a fair number of years invested in it.
     
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  14. Shadow Wolf

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    You didn't smash it. You uncovered the truth, but you aren't the one who broke it, you aren't the one who overstepped bounds of trust.
    Take care. I hope it works out well for you in the end.
     
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  15. Ellen Brown

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    Not much consolation perhaps, but was this a "texting" affair only? If you feel strong enough, would it be worth asking her why she did not have those sorts of conversations with you? Once trust is broken, it would take a strong man to confront all that. :(
     
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  16. ADigitalArtist

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    That is awful. :( I'm so sorry. To echo others here, there is no excuse for cheating. There's nothing you could have done to make that sort of violation of trust appropriate. That is on her, not you.

    Hope you have a support network there, you'll need to talk to more than just lawyers.
     
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  17. dybmh

    dybmh Terminal Optimist
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    Brother, I'm so sorry to hear that.

    It started out as a great post. Now I am really sad for you.

    I am so sorry.
     
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  18. Father Heathen

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    **** sucks.. Hang in there. :(
     
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  19. lewisnotmiller

    lewisnotmiller Grand Hat
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    **** mate...just...****.

    Language filters be buggered.
     
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    Sorry to hear that. It was a long time ago, but I've been there. Stay strong and don't do anything you would regret. See if you can or want to salvage something from this.
     
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