I think its important to understand that humans are not perfect in this world. Some have defects in their vision, their hearing, their physical form, their mental health. I see homosexuality as just another defect, no worse than being born with any other abnormality. Some people are born with wiring problems, hormonal issues and brain chemistry imbalances.....its not the defect, but how it manifests that is the issue, (scripturally speaking.)
We all know that pedophilia is something abhorrent to those who aren't pedophiles. The sexual abuse of children is something that is unacceptable to those who do not suffer with the disorder......yet it is accepted as normal among those with the disorder even though it is punishable by law. Can a pedophile stop being a pedophile? I don't think so......but they can learn to control their leanings because what they do is abhorrent to others....an offense to the law and to God.
Becoming a worshipper of the God of the Bible, brings with it the notion of sacrifice. What does it mean to "sacrifice" something to God? The Israelites knew what sacrifice was.....they had to offer the very best they had, to God. Not that he needed what they were offering, but by the act itself, God was able to see how much the individual making the sacrifice, loved him.
I believe that it is no different with homosexuality. In the Bible, sex is reserved for a married couple with a view to producing a family from that union. This was an arrangement reserved exclusively for a husband and wife, not same sex couples. It is homosexual acts that God finds unnatural and perverted. They are not designed to produce children.
God does not hate homosexuals but he respects those who can overcome their natural inclinations....born with defects as children of Adam.
If a person loves God more than they love themselves or anyone else, they will sacrifice what is valuable to them, knowing that ultimately a reward is reserved for them because of that sacrifice. The larger the sacrifice...the bigger the reward.
For those who care more about what "they" want, God gives them the freedom to do as they please.....there is just no reward because one was not sought. Free will can be exercised by all but all decisions have outcomes. If you choose the course, you choose the outcome. You can't have your cake and eat it too.