I'm not the problem... honestly.Yes, I realized afterwards that you didn't start the thread... everything I said applies to you responding to my post.
The reality is that you don't want to have an honest conversation, you just want to boost your ego by pretending that your definition of integrity makes you better than others. You've yet to demonstrate how a husband demonstrates integrity by worsening his wife's self-esteem in order to bolster his own ego about always being 100% truthful. You appear to have a bizarre definition of integrity. You demonstrate a serious lack of integrity by constantly suggesting that I need a lesson on what integrity is and that I'm somehow suggesting that lying is always okay.
Sorry you think I'm getting defensive just because I'm pointing out your hypocrisy concerning honesty.
I was having an honest conversation.
I don't mind you attacking me about ego. I totally understand. The evidence will speak for itself.
Integrity however does not change to suit anyone. The definition does not change either. So we can't alter it.
Perhaps you can show where I did not use the word correctly.
Honesty does not mean giving every detail about everything.
For example, one can be honest when speaking to a child about sex, but honesty does not mean going into detail about every action or aspect of sex.
Honesty involves, speaking the truth - Not telling lies just to please someone, or avoid what we think would be bad, uncomfortable, etc.
How we speak that truth, can make the difference, but the point is, we speak the truth. Not tell lies.
Some people avoid telling persons something that they think the person will get offended about, but refusing to speak does not help the person, nor make the situation better. It only makes it worst, because the person does not see the need to adjust for the better.
I personally witness that situation, and the husband wife situation is only one.
The long and short of it, persons fail to see the consequences, but those consequences come back to bite them in the future.
Often they don't realize why, because their pride prevents them from connecting the dots.
If we can help people avoid that, that's a good thing... I think.