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Discussion in 'Interfaith Discussion' started by Xavier Graham, Nov 24, 2022.

  1. ChristineM

    ChristineM "Be strong" I whispered to my coffee.
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    It has nothing to do with stealing elections
     
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    In a sense. In the more Christian parts of the US, it's assumed that you're Christian unless you specify otherwise and churches are the only gathering areas in much of the rural countryside.

    Since everyone is assumed to be Christian and Christianity is a core part of their communities, talking about church or the Bible or God is often seen as casual conversation in these places. It's like talking about the weather. To them, Christianity is as obviously true and commonly accepted as the existence of trees.

    This makes it particularly difficult if you are not Christian and wish to avoid confrontation because simply being open about not being Christian almost automatically places you into the social outgroup.
     
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  3. ChristineM

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    A few years ago i took a road trip from Atlanta to New Orleans, Dallas, visits friends in Arizona and ended up in LA.

    The leg from Atlanta to New Orleans was scary for an atheist, some ofthose guys carried guns and spoke jesus, or god twice every sentence?

    The further west we got the more relaxed things were. So I'm guessing religion is the core conversation in the deep south.
     
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    I'm usually just quiet and let folks think whatever they want.
    You know, less drama that way.
    I usually avoid politics too.
    Religion and politics, no good can come of it during family get togethers.
     
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  5. Aštra’el

    Aštra’el Aštara, Blade of Aštoreth

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    It is great that whether or not I discuss politics and religion with family and friends, the bonds remain. The loyalty, remains. I am very appreciative of that.

    Our Thanksgiving exchanges at the table can be anything… though it does tend to gravitate towards what we have each achieved and experienced throughout the year and what our plans might be moving forward.
     
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  6. Left Coast

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    I enjoy the same struggle. Usually if a religious discussion comes up I can address their particular point without wholesale denouncement of their religion.
     
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    I don't know if its the core conversation in the South, but its definitely mentioned frequently, and always with the assumption that everyone present is Christian.

    Where I am(Midwest), its uncommon(but not unheard of) that people will use this default idea that everyone shares their belief, and most tend not to bring up religious conversations unless they're aware of what the other believes. Occasionally, you'll see it defaulted with older folks in rural areas, but that's about it.

    If you went from Atlanta to Dallas, sounds like you were right in the thick of it...

    I wouldn't say it was scary for me when we traveled through the south this past summer(it was for my oldest son), but I really wasn't comfortable, as a non-Christian.
     
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    I've been asked, directly and I directly.

    Once I was asked to say grace!

    But I knew what to say!

    SANCTIFY, Oh Lord
    This food to our use
    And us to thy purposes.

    Amen
     
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    I should try it as a awful alien atheist asian.
     
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  10. ChristineM

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  11. Audie

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    Well I don't want to do that but maybe I'm
    a lesbian, I'm sure done with men.
     
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    Saying grace might be a simple example. It's certainly one that clarified my children's position on God to some of our friends.
     
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    Me too. I'm never sleeping with one from here until the day I die, I'll tell you that much.
     
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    I guess I am a bit late for this. However, being a Christian is not such a bad thing, so there is no harm in pretending for a day just to keep peace in the family.
     
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    Okay. Then isn’t it an easy enough thing to just bow your head and mumble, when others are saying grace?
     
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    Daddy, Min had her eyes open during grace!
     
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    Why would I do that?
    I just sit quietly and politely and let them finish. My kids can make their own choice between doing the same or joining in, but I'm certainly not going to encourage them to pretend to be Christian if they're not.
     
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  18. ChristineM

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    It is easy but some see it as hypocrisy. It is also easy to understand that other people have different beliefs
     
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    Too much to ask, eh? Gotcha.
     
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    I guess that depends.

    Its one thing to politely bow and mumble with friends or family who would willingly put their hands in the 'namaste' position and be reverent if they walked into our family doing puja. I would comfortably pray with those who would comfortably pray with me. I feel we share a common goal in those situations, even if we don't share a common God.

    However, if they're the type that would wait outside, or sit in a chair on their phone while it was finished, I'd return that favor, too.
     
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