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There’s a madwoman at the wheel

Discussion in 'Journals' started by Meow Mix, Jul 28, 2021.

  1. Meow Mix

    Meow Mix Chatte Féministe

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    I’m in bed, still awake well after getting off work, thinking about going on this date this weekend. I’ve become such a creature of habit that it’s genuinely uncomfortable to feel excited about this.

    I was talking to somebody recently about this and concluded that I’ve built up something of a shell when it comes to relationships where I never even give people a chance… yet I’d be lying if I didn’t say I haven’t already thought of reasons not to go through with date 2. And that concerns me, because that’s such neurotic behavior that it seems problematic.

    I don’t know what kind of trauma has caused me to be this way, but I’m trying not to. I’m definitely going on the date and I’m giving this girl a chance. I’m excited, and that’s spooky because this just isn’t what I do. But literally every one of my friends said exasperated things like “finally!” and the like, and I trust my friends.

    Why is it the dumb simple things that are always so hard? Anyway, here’s an emoji because I don’t know how to close out this post about silly worries. :spoutingwhale:
     
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    crossfire Antinomian feminist heretic freak ☿
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  4. ChristineM

    ChristineM "Be strong" I whispered to my coffee.
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  5. Martin

    Martin Spam, wonderful spam (bloody vikings!)

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    I can relate to how you feel, Erin. But your friends are right, and it will be fine. :)
    Martin
     
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    There's a time to think, and there's a time to act. Strike while the iron is hot. :)
     
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    It also feels a bit like a "no risk, no reward" sort of situation. Dating is emotionally scary, it's emotionally risky. But we all know there can be a great reward :)
     
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    There are many things I don't want to do but find they are necessary in the achievement of some goal have. Consciously I spend minutes and minutes coming up with reasons to not move forward with them. I've found that I can let go of my conscious resistance and let my subconscious mind/body do all of the heavy lifting. The necessary thing gets done and the whole experience is not even half as bad as I imagined it might be.
     
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    I don't know why but when I read the title to this thread I envisioned a giant frosted cookie driving a car. The cookie had no arms and was just spinning clockwise and counterclockwise. There was not clear Physics involved. I believe it had white frosting and sprinkles. I hope this helps. My dating advice certainly wouldn't.
     
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  10. Meow Mix

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    Thank you everyone, I feel fine this morning. Emotional vulnerability is dumb sometimes.
     
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    Thumbs up, my lovely. (this sounds a better in a Cornish accent)
     
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  12. Meow Mix

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    It's technically Friday, one more night of work... Then date 2. aaaaaaaaaaaAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA ok I feel better.
     
  13. ChristineM

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    You WILL have fun so stop fretting
     
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    That's what Dumb Me™ is afraid of. She wants to stay single because won't this mess with my freedom? Won't this affect my schedule? So on and so on. Don't worry, she's in time out.
     
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    There is no knowing how things will work ou till you give them a chance.
    It might turn out to be just another date. it could lead to an affair or a long term relationship or a firm platonic friendship.
    Just go with the flow and enjoy the date for what it is. these thing are usually decided for themselves by chemistry.
     
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    This is true. I'm not worried about chilling and being able to get along and get a feel for her. I'm literally just scared of the implications of it going well. I'm very silly I guess.
     
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    Let it develop, if a relationship grows, cool, if not then obviously not compatible and you have good memories.

    No, a relationship does not necessarily mess with freedom but it needs to be a strong relationship... Trust me on this.
     
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    I am looking forward to picking out the top-notch, special occasion, cutest outfits. And probably rotating through all of them 5 times before deciding.
     
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    ChristineM "Be strong" I whispered to my coffee.
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    Group decision are fun
     
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    Ha yes! ^.^ Oh the depths of my closet, those poor poor depths. They will be plundered.
     
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