The perils of online dating

[Stevicus]

I know that many have boasted the numerous success stories and happy marriages which have been the product of online dating. But there's also another side to it which is not so happy. Such as stories like this one:

Woman says a man she met on Tinder swindled her out of $200K

Fjellhoy, a 29-year-old Norwegian masters student living in London, said she was swept off her feet on their first date, which included a private plane ride to Bulgaria. Fjellhoy said Leviev told her he was an Israeli millionaire who called himself the "Prince of Diamonds."

"I was texting my friends at the same time like in a group chat just like, 'I don't know what's going on,'" she said.

But what began as a storybook romance turned into a real-life nightmare, Fjellhoy said – one that sent her into debt and fearing for her safety. It's a cautionary tale in the dangers of online dating.


"I hate him, he's so horrible," she said. "I am just tired of crying about this you know? It's just so painful. I just hate myself that I did this."

This man that she dated was a real scumbag. According to the article, he was arrested last month in Greece and is awaiting extradition to Israel, where he is facing charges of forgery, fraud, and theft.

Of course, I find myself asking the usual questions: How could someone do this to her? How was she able to be fooled?

But what really astounds me is how some people can seemingly thrive and live lavishly solely on their ability to BS, manipulate, and con people like that. It's uncanny to me. It reminds me of the character of Harry the Hat on Cheers, before he became a judge on Night Court.

Does anyone here have much personal experience with these "wise guy" types? Can anyone offer any insight as to what goes through their heads? How do their minds work?

The piece of excrement in question responded in a text message:

Hayut told "Nightline" in May that he was innocent. In a text message, he said, "There is nothing here just [a] loan between friends that went south… she agreed to loan me the money and then she disappeared… before we [were]able to pay back… they used me for my life they got expensive gifts and everything, In other words gold diggers, When I ask help they agreed to help and they know that I have some problems I didn’t run from no one it's all fake news and lies."

Well, of course, it must be "fake news." What else could it be?

"I was on my way to pay back the money and she just disappeared!" That's a rather bizarre excuse.

So what gives here? Any comments are appreciated.

 

[Revoltingest]

Dating has always been dangerous.
It continues to be no matter what the venue.

 

[Orbit]

"Neither a borrower not a lender be". I can't remember if that's Shakespeare or Proverbs, but it's still good advice in a dating situation.

 

[Ellen Brown]

Online dating is perilous. I've had chilling experiences on SKYPE, and on various web sites. These days I have Facebook almost closed down. On SKYPE no one can contact me that I do not know. Men who say they are Muslim have been especially creepy. One man said he was a retired UK Military man, but it turned out he was from Pakistan or India.

It seems always with men online, they only think about sex or naked women. Sad, so sad.

 

[LiveBetterLife]

I know that many have boasted the numerous success stories and happy marriages which have been the product of online dating. But there's also another side to it which is not so happy. Such as stories like this one:

Woman says a man she met on Tinder swindled her out of $200K



This man that she dated was a real scumbag. According to the article, he was arrested last month in Greece and is awaiting extradition to Israel, where he is facing charges of forgery, fraud, and theft.

Of course, I find myself asking the usual questions: How could someone do this to her? How was she able to be fooled?

But what really astounds me is how some people can seemingly thrive and live lavishly solely on their ability to BS, manipulate, and con people like that. It's uncanny to me. It reminds me of the character of Harry the Hat on Cheers, before he became a judge on Night Court.

Does anyone here have much personal experience with these "wise guy" types? Can anyone offer any insight as to what goes through their heads? How do their minds work?

The piece of excrement in question responded in a text message:



Well, of course, it must be "fake news." What else could it be?

"I was on my way to pay back the money and she just disappeared!" That's a rather bizarre excuse.

So what gives here? Any comments are appreciated.

Not to mention all the rape.

 

[LiveBetterLife]

Dating has always been dangerous.
It continues to be no matter what the venue.

True and the possibilities for danger and the forms that it can take in the dating world are limitless.

However, there seem to be some especially and significantly more damaged people who pursue online dating; I'd argue that this makes online dating more dangerous than more classical endeavours.

 

[Revoltingest]

True and the possibilities for danger and the forms that it can take in the dating world are limitless.

However, there seem to be some especially and significantly more damaged people who pursue online dating; I'd argue that this makes online dating more dangerous than more classical endeavours.

Could be.

 

[Mock Turtle]

Online dating is perilous. I've had chilling experiences on SKYPE, and on various web sites. These days I have Facebook almost closed down. On SKYPE no one can contact me that I do not know. Men who say they are Muslim have been especially creepy. One man said he was a retired UK Military man, but it turned out he was from Pakistan or India.

It seems always with men online, they only think about sex or naked women. Sad, so sad.

This is probably true for so many but wasn't for me in my short excursion on such sites - even being overly honest in photos and such. But the scammers were all too obvious - eager to mention money, for example - so I gave up after a short while. But at my age one has to just accept such.

 

[Stevicus]

This is probably true for so many but wasn't for me in my short excursion on such sites - even being overly honest in photos and such. But the scammers were all too obvious - eager to mention money, for example - so I gave up after a short while. But at my age one has to just accept such.

I think that aspect contributes to a large part of the problem. A lot of these sites are inundated by people who are there for commercial reasons. Most of the messages one might get are from thinly-veiled ads for paid escorts and entertainers. A lot of these dating sites are on the periphery of the sex industry, and many of the ads seem to fit the category of soft porn.

So, for men, once they're already in that mode of thinking, they're sending random messages of sexual content to just about any woman - because they get the impression that they're all there for the same reason.

 

[LiveBetterLife]

Could be.

I dappled on Tinder for a short while.

All the girls I hooked up with had very obvious social or physical deficiencies or they would bring up times they were raped or assaulted seemingly moments after meeting them.

Red flags flying all round.

 

[Revoltingest]

I dappled on Tinder for a short while.

All the girls I hooked up with had very obvious social or physical deficiencies or they would bring up times they were raped or assaulted seemingly moments after meeting them.

Red flags flying all round.

All girls/women have numerous serious flaws.
Tis a wonder that we even put up with them.

 

[Stevicus]

All girls/women have numerous serious flaws.
Tis a wonder that we even put up with them.

Well, they put up with our numerous serious flaws, so it's only fair.

 

[screwyupsidedown19]

All girls/women have numerous serious flaws.
Tis a wonder that we even put up with them.

I think you’re wrong about the fifth ranked poster of last month.

 

[Revoltingest]

Well, they put up with our numerous serious flaws, so it's only fair.

Aye, you've single handedly brought down our average.
But gals do like the bad boy.

 

[screwyupsidedown19]

Aye, you've single handedly brought down our average.
But gals do like the bad boy.

Trust me I’ve brought down the average way more than anyone on this forum. I think you’ve got the wrong person

 

[LiveBetterLife]

All girls/women have numerous serious flaws.
Tis a wonder that we even put up with them.

Internet daters seem to be more often and more severely flawed in my experiences and observations. Likely it's the reason why they resigned this aspect of their lives to the internet in the first place.

 

[screwyupsidedown19]

Internet daters seem to be more often and more severely flawed in my experiences and observations. Likely it's the reason why they resigned this aspect of their lives to the internet in the first place.

Everyone is flawed. Some just know how to hide it better than others.

 

[LiveBetterLife]

Everyone is flawed. Some just know how to hide it better than others.

I'm not flawed. It's just that everyone's so jealous.

 

[irena]

In any situation there is a risk. Online dating also needs to be checked