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The difference in how we say things.

Discussion in 'Philosophy' started by Conscious thoughts, Sep 21, 2021.

  1. Conscious thoughts

    Conscious thoughts Veteran Member

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    The difference in

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    Just by changing the way we look at life, the life will change around us

    Stay positive
     
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  2. lewisnotmiller

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    What is the meaning of this life?

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  3. anna b.

    anna b. Tried and waited then got tired, that's about it

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    "You" statements and "I" statements:

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  4. Nakosis

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    The only real control we have is over the "I" statements. This is where we can choose otherwise.
    The you statements we might try to manipulate others into getting them to give us what we want but there is no guarantee.
     
  5. anna b.

    anna b. Tried and waited then got tired, that's about it

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    I suppose one can control the narrative with 'you' statements, but not in a good way. 'You' statements are accusatory, they put the other person on the defensive, and can escalate an argument. Using 'I' statements as the main driver allows the opportunity for the other person to see how their words or actions have affected you with a lesser degree of finger-pointing.

    Everyone's different and some are very good at manipulation, but 'you' statements come from emotions of hurt or frustration or disappointment or anger. No matter how justified one is in their emotion, saying 'you you you' likely won't help the situation.
     
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    I agree. I prefer to work with the "I" statements.
     
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