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Discussion in 'Psychology' started by JustGeorge, Sep 14, 2021.

  1. JustGeorge

    JustGeorge Retired Ruler
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    Today, I came into the living room to find my red tailed shark stuck in his pineapple under the sea:
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    He'd always swam in and out of the windows, but apparently he's expanded. My husband shoved him back through with a little work, but he's got some injuries.

    It reminded me of the predicaments I see many people go through. No, I don't know too many people who get stuck in their windows, but I see a lot of people get stuck. Some have a fear of aging, and they try to continue doing what they did decades ago, and it doesn't serve them well. Others get stuck in jobs that don't serve them, or with habits that drag them down.

    When I was a younger woman, I had a beautiful kitten. He was cream, with long fluffy hair. He was playful and sweet, and I was terrified when I came home one day to find his head caught under my bedroom door. He scream and screeched, I screamed and screeched. He pulled backwards, pushed forwards, eventually, tearfully, I got him out with about a bottle of oil. Who knows how long he was there. But, he seemed fine, and was playing in no time at all. He'd always gone under my door, but like my shark friend, he'd expanded.

    The next day when I came home, my dog didn't greet me at the door. My heart sunk. There was only one other occasion in which my dog didn't come to the door; when my roommate's kitten died. I looked for my dog... sure enough. My kitten had passed, and he was laying with him(my dog dearly loved kittens). He must have gotten some injury that wasn't apparent...

    Sometimes being stuck can do that. Sometimes the death is physical(like a person who drinks themselves to death), sometimes it is figurative(the person who lets life pass them by), but remaining stuck or trying to go down paths in which we no longer fit can do us serious harm.

    But it can be hard. My puppy has been known for getting stuck in the banister; she's just recently begun to realize she doesn't fit between the bars anymore. Sometimes that realization is hard to make: I don't belong here, and if I try to make myself, I'm going to get hurt." But, in the end, there's better ways to spend one's time other than getting jammed in between a couple of planks.

    Has there been a time you've felt stuck, or you've had to try to 'unstick' someone else?
     
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  2. Quagmire

    Quagmire Imaginary talking monkey
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    Well, I once joined this internet forum, and then 14 years later . . .
     
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  3. Conscious thoughts

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    You got stuck in RF :confused: Dang it, and I thought I was alone in that o_O
     
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  4. Quagmire

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    Don't feel bad, I just fell asleep on the bus and woke up here.
     
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    This was hard to read. :( So sorry for your kitten loss. That stuff tends to stick in your head years and years later in perfect clarity like..well..trauma tends to do.

    I had a similar though thankfully less tragic experience as a kid. My brother (we are three years apart) was with me swimming in a river. He was in a donut float and got himself flipped upside down accidentally, with his upper torso stuck in and trapped under water.
    I was big enough to lift up tthe float but too short and with no footing to flip it over again. I near panicked but thankfully one of the adults waded in full clothing out to us and flipped him over. That moment still sticks.
     
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  6. Conscious thoughts

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    I tried to leave at least 3 times :oops: but it seems like the Glue RF use to keep their members in place is to great for me to get out off :eek:
     
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  7. Quagmire

    Quagmire Imaginary talking monkey
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    Well to borrow and butcher a line from Mark Twain:
    RF is the worst place on the internet, except for every other place on the internet.
     
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  8. JustGeorge

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    Thanks. It was really shocking... the part I remember with the most clarity was the dog not coming to the door. I knew something terrible happened... and I remember that "Oh ****" feeling...

    I'm glad your situation had a happy ending. That would be terrifying... so glad an adult was nearby.

    How else do you think we'd retain members?
     
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    Hehe maybe it is some kind of force field :confused:
     
  10. JustGeorge

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    Nah. That'd require a lot of skill. Much more than anyone around here has. So, its just plain ol' glue!
     
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  11. Quagmire

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    And don't forget the invisible RF sock puppet monkey ninjas that go around planting chips in new members heads when they're asleep.

    "Buy a premium membership buy a premium membership . . ."
     
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  12. ChristineM

    ChristineM "Be strong" I whispered to my coffee.
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    Sorry about your kitten


    Not a stuck story but...We had a border collie from being a pup, we also had a cast iron and marble coffee table, very heavy. As a pup the dog could walk under it but there came a day when 'thunk' she banged her head on the frame. She never learned that she had grown and several times a day she would walk into the table. We eventually had to get rid of the table to minimise the lumps and bumps on the dogs head

    Yes, I won't go into the whys and wherefores, i still have screaming nightmares about it. l was pulled out of a very toxic situation by close friends before I commited suicide.

    And so i am here to not tell the tail...
     
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  13. JustGeorge

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    It can be hard to realize you've grown.

    My husband put on the 'Covid 19'... he kept complaining how the washing machine was shrinking his shirts. We'd all giggle, and he had no idea what was so funny...

    I'm glad you're here with us. :)
     
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