Spirit of Light
Be who ever you want
I hope this post is not too personal.
But I had a realization this morning about an issue I have been struggling with all my life. The issue has been that I have not been able to feel comfortable around other men. I have never known why this occurred, but I suspect 12 years of bullying in childhood is a reason.
It has been so bad at times that I could not even shake hands with another man. Let alone give someone hug or be in a situation where out of happiness someone wanted to give me a hug. It honestly made me feel sick. And it was never meant to hurt others or be against men. It was a mental issue for me as a person (so I do not blame other men)
But when I woke up this morning and was watching a video on youtube (mental health), something clicked in my head and I found the answer to my problem (I am my own problem) What happened in the past with all the bullying has shaped me in a way that I did not control, but as soon I took control over the fear (happened today) I understand that, yes even I do have my "personal space awareness" I do not need to fear if someone gets within this zone, because I am the one in charge of my own personal zone.
The feeling of being able to clear out this negative thought I carry for a long time feels actually really refreshing
(No i not going to run around hugging men every day now )
Sorry if this thread became to personal ...
But I had a realization this morning about an issue I have been struggling with all my life. The issue has been that I have not been able to feel comfortable around other men. I have never known why this occurred, but I suspect 12 years of bullying in childhood is a reason.
It has been so bad at times that I could not even shake hands with another man. Let alone give someone hug or be in a situation where out of happiness someone wanted to give me a hug. It honestly made me feel sick. And it was never meant to hurt others or be against men. It was a mental issue for me as a person (so I do not blame other men)
But when I woke up this morning and was watching a video on youtube (mental health), something clicked in my head and I found the answer to my problem (I am my own problem) What happened in the past with all the bullying has shaped me in a way that I did not control, but as soon I took control over the fear (happened today) I understand that, yes even I do have my "personal space awareness" I do not need to fear if someone gets within this zone, because I am the one in charge of my own personal zone.
The feeling of being able to clear out this negative thought I carry for a long time feels actually really refreshing
(No i not going to run around hugging men every day now )
Sorry if this thread became to personal ...