Single or Married?

[Riders]

So just seeing how many of us singles are here and how many of us are not happy in our situations. Too many people including my family look to marriage to cure them of troubles. So I just thought this would be interesting.

 

[stvdv]

So just seeing how many of us singles are here and how many of us are not happy in our situations. Too many people including my family look to marriage to cure them of troubles. So I just thought this would be interesting.

Single (and introspection etc) cures me of my trouble, and I am happy alone, wish it no other way

Nice poll, good and clear options

 

[Polymath257]

Where is 'married, happy, and looking?'

 

[Trailblazer]

So just seeing how many of us singles are here and how many of us are not happy in our situations. Too many people including my family look to marriage to cure them of troubles. So I just thought this would be interesting.

You have no category for married and not happy but still not getting divorced.
Baha'is are not supposed to get divorced just because they are not happy, we are supposed to try to work things out for a year while living apart and then if we have an aversion for each other we can get divorced.

My husband is not unhappy with me but he has serious problems which cause me not to be happy with him, but even if I cannot work it out I am not going to abandon my husband and look for another man. I would consider that selfish.

 

[Trailblazer]

Where is 'married, happy, and looking?'

If you are married and happy why would you be looking?

 

[Viker]

Single, often oblivious to dating, yet still open to dating, romance, something more lasting.

 

[Trailblazer]

Single, often oblivious to dating, yet still open to dating, romance, something more lasting.

I was also single and oblivious to dating and then I met my husband and we got married three weeks later...
That was 37 years ago and the rest is history.

 

[Viker]

I'll probably not be vertical above ground in 37 years.

But congrats on a long meaningful lasting marriage!

 

[Sgt. Pepper]

Happily married to my best friend and soulmate for 29 years. My husband and I met 30 years ago, and we've been together ever since. My marriage has had its ups and downs over the years, but my husband and I stuck it out, and we're happy together now.

 

[Stevicus]

I think I remained single because I've seen too many failed marriages end in divorce, starting with my parents' divorce.

 

[Trailblazer]

I'll probably not be vertical above ground in 37 years.

But congrats on a long meaningful lasting marriage!

I have a tendency to stick things out through thick and thin...

The main problem now is his health and I am NOT a nurse type, so I cannot deal with medical stuff. We have good health insurance so hopefully we can find out what is wrong and address it because I cannot stand to see people in pain while I am helpless to do anything about it...

I think he also has some psychological problems but until we address the medical we cannot do anything about that. First things first.

 

[Trailblazer]

I think I remained single because I've seen too many failed marriages end in divorce, starting with my parents' divorce.

Maybe I got married for the opposite reason, because my parents had a long and happy marriage till my father died when he was only 52. After that my mother lived alone for the next 40 years but at least she had three children.

My husband by contrast came from a family with divorces. His father was married three times and the third marriage was a charm, but before that my husband and his only sister were split up between the parents.

 

[Debater Slayer]

Single and not looking for the time being. I'd like to eventually find romantic love, but I'm currently far more focused on establishing my career, emigrating, and possibly obtaining a master's degree.

 

[The Hammer]

If you are married and happy why would you be looking?

Why not?

 

[sun rise]

Married since 1969!!!

The first few years were hellish but the more recent decades have been great.

 

[Trailblazer]

Why not?

I guess I am just not like that. One man is enough, often more than enough!
But to each his or her own. We all have different lifestyles.

But if my husband passes on before I do I would probably be looking for another man and this time i will be sure he is a handyman and also does yard work!

 

[Trailblazer]

The first few years were hellish but....

Same here but it got better after we saw the sex therapist but then later it got worse.
It is not really that bad now except for his health problems given he is 10 years older than me and has unrelenting bladder/prostate problems.

 

[Viker]

I have a tendency to stick things out through thick and thin...

The main problem now is his health and I am NOT a nurse type, so I cannot deal with medical stuff. We have good health insurance so hopefully we can find out what is wrong and address it because I cannot stand to see people in pain while I am helpless to do anything about it...

I think he also has some psychological problems but until we address the medical we cannot do anything about that. First things first.

Medical and mental coincide. Seeing you stick things out he'll be okay in your arms. I took care of my mother her last days. It was hard on us both. I'm glad I had that time with her.

 

[Trailblazer]

Medical and mental coincide. Seeing you stick things out he'll be okay in your arms. I took care of my mother her last days. It was hard on us both. I'm glad I had that time with her.

I wanted to take care of my mother in her last days, she was 93, and my husband also wanted to care for her because he loved her and she was the mother she never had since his mother was awful, but my mother passed away before we had a chance to move her to our house. My husband had been a nurse so he good at care-taking, unlike me.

 

[Psalm23]

So just seeing how many of us singles are here and how many of us are not happy in our situations. Too many people including my family look to marriage to cure them of troubles. So I just thought this would be interesting.

I'm single and looking for love. I hope to find a marriage partner one day.