So why are you comparing them?Exactly. There really is no comparison between selfish pleasure and real love.
It's pleasant to eat chocolate, to play tennis or a video game, to masturbate, to ride a bike, to listen to music. None of these has anything to do with love, but that doesn't diminish the pleasure they give.
Is the goal of sex to make you feel better about yourself?Of course you can, but what truly satisfies a person? What makes one feel better about ones self?
Why do you dismiss casual pleasure as worthless?