PetShopBoy88 said:
This is to continue a thought I inappropriately posted in the wrong forum (sorry for getting the thread locked :sorry1
about a gay mormon man marrying a woman. Katzpur mentioned something about thinking it surprising that somebody would marry a man they knew was not sexually atracted to them. I think sexual attraction should not be the deciding factor. Obviously these two are compatible in other ways. They probably like similar things, have similar views about raising children, and love each other in most other ways other than sexually. Should a mere sexual attraction be the deciding for whether or not a relationship should move to marriage? I say no, but, then again, I'm not married.
Not to worry about that other thread, and it's reopened now anyway.
I am married, and have been for over 20 years (same guy too
).
Sex is a very important, but not the only reason, for being married.
While I don't think it should be the deciding factor on its own, it would be naive for a couple to marry without having a very good understanding of the possible stress that might be on that relationship.
I've seen it happen time and again when a woman marries a may figuring the things she doesn't like can be "fixed." Well ladies, that doesn't happen. I have no idea if the woman in this instance somehow thinks she can fix his orientation, but it's possible this applies.
And there are examples of homosexuals who get married, have children, and then just can't stand suppressing what they feel, so there's a potential danger as well.
The bottom line is, any couple thinking of doing this should take great care and try to be as objective as possible.
In this case, the couple is LDS, so I expect they will get more support than they would in other circumstances.