Sure, yes. I get that.
As with anything I say like that, it does take some clarification sometimes.
No, I'd don't mean never experiencing the natural fears that you should feel when there is a real and immediate threat. That is completely nature, and healthy since it saves our lives.
The kind of fear I am talking about it the basic fear condition of the human being, as an evolved primate with a really big brain, we extend that basic primal instinct of fear into everything, all manner of threats perceived, not the least of which are things that contribute to things like social anxiety disorders, where that fear of rejection of others becomes so severe it immobilize them. We as a species extend that fear into everything to one level or another.
The fear of rejection. The fear of abandonment. The fear of loss. The fear of pain. The fear of grief. The fear of our own death, imagined in our minds, seen on the horizon of the future. Worries about tomorrow. Anxieties about finances, health, social status, food, appearance, self-esteem, fears of confronting one's own shame, one's own demons we have exiled into the corner whom we fear greatly and keep tight under lock and key, etc. The list could go on and on and on. And everyone to more than a little degree or another spends an enormous amount of energy in protecting ourselves of these perceived threats, of which any that are actually real or useful are very few in number.
But the greatest fear of all is our existential fear. The fear of death. But not the fear of physical death, but that our life has no meaning or value, staring into the face of absolute annihilation, or the Abyss as Camus called it, taking you to the edge of despair. Standing on the precipice between being and nonbeing, or "nothingness" That is the whole basis of an existential crisis which often leads to a great awakening, ah hah moment. From great doubt, comes great awakening. (That describes my own experience when I was young).
Everyone lives with that, like a background radiation from the big bang, or in our case the "Big Brain". This is the curse of the big brain, it seems.
So what I'm talking about is not fearing anything real, walking around like some blissed-out hippie on LSD who thinks mainstreet is a cornfield and there are no "real cars" there about to hit him.
I'm talking about being liberated from all that constant background hum of all that energy we extend in our thought to all these "worries", from A to Z, back around again, and though the list over and over and over again.
When that has been set aside completely, then you become fully present in the moment, and are engaged with life full on. It's hardly an escape from reality. It's abandoning a non-reality for the Real. When so engaged, then all these normal "worries" are simple matters, and regardless of outcome, you are the source of your own happiness. As it should be for everyone.
I see it as fully awakening to the human experience, whereas before it was being an asleep human, caught in a pergetorial existence between heaven and hell. Once awake, then we become who we truly are, regardless of what happens, including death. Resistance to life, is what causes our existential unhappiness.
I'm getting to really enjoy hearing quotes from her. She seems insightful. Yes, absolutely! That is what it means to be fully present in the moment. All experience tells us about ourselves, if we get out of the way and allow it to be our guide though life.