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Saving Yourself for Marriage?
- Thread starter Sunstone
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DallasApple
Depends Upon My Mood..
I think that depends on the individual and the circumstances.Not to bring it up again (the man woman thing) but I do think a woman is more "valuable" or a "prize" if she has not been permeated by a man before marriage. I mean not that she IS but that is how she is viewed/
DallasApple
Depends Upon My Mood..
That's the advantage.YOU are viewed as PURE!
Would that consideration outweigh for you any other consideration when deciding whether to have sex before marriage?
DallasApple
Depends Upon My Mood..
That's a hard question. My instinct is to say NO!/But I don't know if the consequences would be worth it.
Sex isn't like just "shaking hands".Not for me.But its also not signing some sort of life or death "contract" of obligation ...(marriage)
Its sounds corny ...but love.
Love is areal thing. I guess since i know that .I'm not a whore.
See..I said "whore".. I have an aversion to being a whore.I don't know why.
Its complicated.
DallasApple
Depends Upon My Mood..
Shermana
Heretic
You should see the interest I get from the ladies at the parties whenever my friends announce my innocence.
Volodya
Member
Draka
Wonder Woman
I can think of advantages of having sex before marriage, but not really of advantages to not having sex before marriage. I honestly can't think of a reasonable reason to not have sex before marriage, nor any real advantage to waiting until marriage.
I.S.L.A.M617
Illuminatus
Well, if you wait until marriage, you'll only have sex with one person ever (assuming you're faithful and don't get a divorce). Sounds pretty boring to me...
What about avoiding the risk of disease? Would that weigh much?
Shermana
Heretic
Not if you believe in Polygamy like me!
I.S.L.A.M617
Illuminatus
You could always use protection, or stay away from dirty whores.
Pegg
Jehovah our God is One
no broken relationships to emotionally scar you
no unwanted pregnancy which means you can finish school, get a job and start planning for your future.
no crazy ex boyfriends coming back to haunt you
no sexually transmitted diseases
self respect / self esteem
the respect of your peers
peace of mind
a good conscience knowing you've done things Gods way..... and you'll have his approval which is more important then anything.
I.S.L.A.M617
Illuminatus
Polygamy sounds exhausting...
Volodya
Member
No, it wouldn't.
Draka
Wonder Woman
What's that have to do with the price of potatoes? One, you said waiting until marriage, now, that could mean either pre-marital sex with the person you intend to marry, or having sex with other people before choosing a marital partner. Either way, who says one can't be safe while doing so? For that matter, once married, there's more chance of not using safe sex with your partner and if they cheat they could be subjecting you to diseases. Pre-marital sex doesn't equate with disease.
Shermana
Heretic
Richer men of the higher social statuses often don't put up with anything less than virgin or near-virgin when it comes to marriage, no matter how much you complain about the Patriarchy. But if you're not looking for a Richer man in the Higher Social Status for a permanent arrangement, then on a secular level, it's not as bad. But most men have an definite "acceptable limit" of some sort, the question is...what is that limit.
Besides, the economics of prostituting yourself if you're a virgin should tell you all you need to know.
Virginity for Sale | Dollars and Sex | Big Think