VoidCat
Pronouns: he/him/they/them
So dating as an asexual is frustrating... I dont feel any sexual attraction and I am sex replused. Yet I can be attracted to anyone romantically regardless of gender. One thing that frustrates me is there is this expectation among people is that if you are ace(short for asexual) and dating someone who is allosexual(someone who experience sexual attraction) then you must compromise your body and have sex in order to keep the relationship. Now some aces do have sex. Usually they arent sex-repulsed and they do so cuz it makes their partner happy. But I am not one of those. I can't ever imagine me having sex. I got into an argument with one of my ex-boyfriends about this...I made it clear before we even started dating I was ace. I told if he wants sex he could screw people outside the relationship I did not mind. However before I broke up with him he read somewhere about how some asexuals choose to have sex and kept trying to pressure me. He felt I owed it to him. Its such an odd concept that he felt that way...I dont see why anyone would want to have sex with someone who isn't interested, and would likely not enjoy it and finds it extremely repulsive. Even if I agreed to it it doesnt really seem like actual consent to me. It's so strange to me that anyone would feel that sex is owed to them. Why would anyone feel that way?