Ðanisty said:Nope, and neither can you. There are a lot of people out there that stay married for very bad reasons. There are a few people out there that stay married because they're genuinely happy. Incidentally, these aren't things I saw growing up. These are things I've seen in as an adult.
It's funny how you say a few people out there, as if it's so little...it's almost a little depressing. I never said that I thought all marriages were all hunky dorrey.... I'm just trying to point out that not every marriage has gone the way you've seen, and a lot more than you think are good and happy. It's funny because you're talking about marriages that stay together for all the wrong reasons... some of those wrong reasons could be the fact that a lot of relationships that go down between people move too fast... they begin having sex and the relatioship becomes a lustful one. I've seen people who don't want to be with eachother, but yet they kept having sex and all that was binding these people together was sex... This could lead to Accidental pregnancy.. yayyyyy. Who's now stuck together and not happy? Now obviously this isn't the only situation where people get stuck together and end up unhappy... but let'sjust try and stick to the topic of premarital sex. I would also like to state that not all sexually binded relationships end in pregnancy... but the fact that people can't get rid of eachother because of lust is one very good reason why premarital sex shouldn't go down. A man and women who have both had sex with other partners and have dated countless other people, get married and enjoy life for the first little while and then get bored... just like they did with every other relationship they've been in... the only problem is.. they have trained themselves to be capable of leaving one another because they've broken up with many people whom they've had a sexual relationship with and loved.
So back to unhappy marriages. You need to be around some more happy people. I'm especially grateful today for my mom and dads happy way of being, along with my aunt zine and uncle dean... and I can't forget aunt niza and uncle hani, and aunt surria and uncle ramsey... oh yeah uncle nazee and aunt najwa... plus not to mention the schilbes and cuthberts, ohhh the biranis and my brothers and their wives, the ewens, the winklers, the chalmers , the elsayeds, the seeds, the elrafihs, and the zabians... I could name pages worth. Now are these marriages perfect? NOPE... but that's what a marriage is, you deal with the ups and downs, and get through it together... now although they aren't perfect... I'm willing to bet a months worth of work ($2200) that every married couple I just mentioned there would say they are happy right now, and that they wouldn't have done it any differently. The problem isn't marriage, the problem is people getting married when they aren't ready, or without understanding the act of marriage. Now I may be considered naive right now... but the marriages I've heard that didn't work from some friends of mine are ones that were CLEARLY doomed from the start.
Peace and Blessings