"Pornography Can Be Good for Consumers" Another Point Of View

[Skwim]

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In light of the thread "Porn Exploits People," I'm presenting another perspective from an article that appeared in the New York Times

Candida Royalle is a creator of feminist pornography and the author of "How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do."

Updated November 11

"Watching pornography is not inherently harmful to men or women. But I would offer some caveats. There are people who probably shouldn’t view porn, like those with poor body image or those who have been sexually victimized. Depending on your choice in viewing, you can develop unrealistic expectations about sex or what people like or how you’ll be expected to “perform.” And watching with someone requires true consent.

When none of these red flags are up, pornography can certainly have benefits. Counselors sometimes suggest it to help people become comfortable with a particular fantasy they or their partner may have. Pornography can reboot a couple’s sex life. It can give you ideas, or help you get in touch with what turns you on.
Porn can deliver you there at best, or disgust you at worst. It all depends on what you choose to watch. With the availability of porn online, it’s possible to sample enough porn quickly that you don’t have to find yourself watching wall-to-wall hard-core sex if it’s plot driven erotica that appeals to you. You’re only a victim of bad porn if you let yourself be.

And a word about sex or porn addiction. I don’t believe in it. Unlike a chemical substance, like opiates, you can’t become “addicted” to sex or porn; you can become a compulsive viewer. In this case, it’s not the porn that’s the problem; it’s the compulsive personality. If it weren’t porn being used to act out one’s compulsive nature, it might be food or some other behavior.

As for whether it’s harmful or beneficial to the performers, let’s take women first. There are some who choose to perform because they like sex a lot and they consider it a great way to earn a living. Then there are those who are drawn to porn as a way of acting out subconscious psychological issues – looking for daddy’s love or punishment for being a bad girl. For many, it’s probably a little of each. Even women with the best mental health will face some downsides from this work. Our culture consumes porn at record numbers, but the women who perform are still judged harshly.

Perhaps if we weren’t still so consumed with guilt and shame about sex, neither watching nor performing in these films would carry the weight it does. But then, perhaps we wouldn’t be so interested in them, either. If the fruit were not forbidden, would anyone care to take a bite?"
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Thoughts?

(Because the article only grazes the subject of the porn worker, I've included "What It's Actually Like To Work As A Female Porn Star," which can be accessed by clicking HERE)

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[Galateasdream]

I don't care eitherway about porn.
For some it's good, for some bad. Like most things.

 

[Skwim]

I don't care eitherway about porn.
For some it's good, for some bad. Like most things.

I don't care either way about cricket.
For some it's interesting, for some boring. Like most things.

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[Galateasdream]

I don't care either way about cricket.
For some it's interesting, for some boring. Like most things.

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Exactly.

 

[columbus]

I don't care eitherway about porn.
For some it's good, for some bad. Like most things.

And, like most things, its mostly about what, why, and how much.

People need food. But too much, the wrong kinds, or for the wrong reasons can create big problems.
Tom

 

[Jeremiah Ames]

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In light of the thread "Porn Exploits People," I'm presenting another perspective from an article that appeared in the New York Times

Candida Royalle is a creator of feminist pornography and the author of "How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do."

Updated November 11

"Watching pornography is not inherently harmful to men or women. But I would offer some caveats. There are people who probably shouldn’t view porn, like those with poor body image or those who have been sexually victimized. Depending on your choice in viewing, you can develop unrealistic expectations about sex or what people like or how you’ll be expected to “perform.” And watching with someone requires true consent.

When none of these red flags are up, pornography can certainly have benefits. Counselors sometimes suggest it to help people become comfortable with a particular fantasy they or their partner may have. Pornography can reboot a couple’s sex life. It can give you ideas, or help you get in touch with what turns you on.
Porn can deliver you there at best, or disgust you at worst. It all depends on what you choose to watch. With the availability of porn online, it’s possible to sample enough porn quickly that you don’t have to find yourself watching wall-to-wall hard-core sex if it’s plot driven erotica that appeals to you. You’re only a victim of bad porn if you let yourself be.

And a word about sex or porn addiction. I don’t believe in it. Unlike a chemical substance, like opiates, you can’t become “addicted” to sex or porn; you can become a compulsive viewer. In this case, it’s not the porn that’s the problem; it’s the compulsive personality. If it weren’t porn being used to act out one’s compulsive nature, it might be food or some other behavior.

As for whether it’s harmful or beneficial to the performers, let’s take women first. There are some who choose to perform because they like sex a lot and they consider it a great way to earn a living. Then there are those who are drawn to porn as a way of acting out subconscious psychological issues – looking for daddy’s love or punishment for being a bad girl. For many, it’s probably a little of each. Even women with the best mental health will face some downsides from this work. Our culture consumes porn at record numbers, but the women who perform are still judged harshly.

Perhaps if we weren’t still so consumed with guilt and shame about sex, neither watching nor performing in these films would carry the weight it does. But then, perhaps we wouldn’t be so interested in them, either. If the fruit were not forbidden, would anyone care to take a bite?"
source​

Thoughts?

(Because the article only grazes the subject of the porn worker, I've included "What It's Actually Like To Work As A Female Porn Star," which can be accessed by clicking HERE)

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I agree.
It is more of a compulsion.
Like chocolate.
I can easily give up chocolate.
When I’m sleeping, or during a root canal.
I’m NOT addicted.

 

[The Hammer]

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In light of the thread "Porn Exploits People," I'm presenting another perspective from an article that appeared in the New York Times

Candida Royalle is a creator of feminist pornography and the author of "How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do."

Updated November 11

"Watching pornography is not inherently harmful to men or women. But I would offer some caveats. There are people who probably shouldn’t view porn, like those with poor body image or those who have been sexually victimized. Depending on your choice in viewing, you can develop unrealistic expectations about sex or what people like or how you’ll be expected to “perform.” And watching with someone requires true consent.

When none of these red flags are up, pornography can certainly have benefits. Counselors sometimes suggest it to help people become comfortable with a particular fantasy they or their partner may have. Pornography can reboot a couple’s sex life. It can give you ideas, or help you get in touch with what turns you on.
Porn can deliver you there at best, or disgust you at worst. It all depends on what you choose to watch. With the availability of porn online, it’s possible to sample enough porn quickly that you don’t have to find yourself watching wall-to-wall hard-core sex if it’s plot driven erotica that appeals to you. You’re only a victim of bad porn if you let yourself be.

And a word about sex or porn addiction. I don’t believe in it. Unlike a chemical substance, like opiates, you can’t become “addicted” to sex or porn; you can become a compulsive viewer. In this case, it’s not the porn that’s the problem; it’s the compulsive personality. If it weren’t porn being used to act out one’s compulsive nature, it might be food or some other behavior.

As for whether it’s harmful or beneficial to the performers, let’s take women first. There are some who choose to perform because they like sex a lot and they consider it a great way to earn a living. Then there are those who are drawn to porn as a way of acting out subconscious psychological issues – looking for daddy’s love or punishment for being a bad girl. For many, it’s probably a little of each. Even women with the best mental health will face some downsides from this work. Our culture consumes porn at record numbers, but the women who perform are still judged harshly.

Perhaps if we weren’t still so consumed with guilt and shame about sex, neither watching nor performing in these films would carry the weight it does. But then, perhaps we wouldn’t be so interested in them, either. If the fruit were not forbidden, would anyone care to take a bite?"
source​

Thoughts?

(Because the article only grazes the subject of the porn worker, I've included "What It's Actually Like To Work As A Female Porn Star," which can be accessed by clicking HERE)

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A compulsive behavior is an addiction, just worded differently. Addiction doesn't always have a physical component like withdrawal. That is why a compulsive person,will jump from one compulsive this g to the next, it's still an addiction.

 

[Skwim]

A compulsive behavior is an addiction, just worded differently. Addiction doesn't always have a physical component like withdrawal. That is why a compulsive person,will jump from one compulsive this g to the next, it's still an addiction.

"There are two main differences between addiction and compulsion. They include:


1. Pleasure
A compulsion, at least as it is experienced in obsessive-compulsive disorder, does not include the experience of pleasure, whereas an addiction does. While people who have addictions suffer all manner of discomfort, the desire to use the substance or engage in the behavior is based on the expectation that it will be pleasurable.

In contrast, someone who experiences a compulsion as part of obsessive-compulsive disorder may not get any pleasure from the behavior he carries out. Often, it is a way of dealing with the obsessive part of the disorder, resulting in a feeling of relief.

This can get a little confusing because there often comes a point for people with addictions where they don’t really enjoy the addictive behavior, and they are just seeking relief from the urge to use or engage in the behavior. This is compounded by the experience of withdrawal that often happens when they stop taking the substance or engaging in the behavior. Although this can look like obsessive-compulsive behavior because the pleasure is gone, the original motivation to engage in the behavior was to feel good.2


2. Reality
Another major distinction between an addiction and a compulsion has to do with the individual’s awareness of reality. When people have obsessive-compulsive disorder,3 they are usually aware that their obsession is not real. They are often disturbed by feeling the need to carry out a behavior that defies logic, yet they do it anyway to relieve their anxiety.

In contrast,1 people with addictions are often quite detached from the senselessness of their actions, feeling that they are just having a good time and that other concerns aren’t that important. This is often known as denial because the addicted person denies that his use or behavior is a problem. Often it is not until a major consequence occurs such as a spouse leaving, a drunk-driving accident, or a job loss, that they are faced with the reality of their addiction."
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[exchemist]

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