InChrist
Free4ever
If a person cannot see the benefits of porn, or even of prostitution then they are not really qualified to comment on it in a meaningful way in my opinion.
There are abuses. But that does not mean that abuse is the norm. Most women that go into prostitution seem to do so voluntarily. Granted it is often due to some bad choices that they have made but it can also be a pathway out of those choices.
My housemates son had a bad opioid addiction. So did his girlfriend. She would sometimes sell herself to pay for their habit. In fact once while he was in jail she asked if I would hold the bail money that she was earning. I was not going to bail him out myself because I thought that he was safer in jail. But I could not turn down her request. So I may have been an accessory to prostitution. I did not get any money myself. I simply held it until she had enough to pay his bail. Well of course he did more crimes when he was bailed out, and she did too. They both ended up going to prison for thee years. And that was what they both needed. Now amazingly they are both out. They are both clean. And they are still together. Engaged to get married of all things. They also both have jobs which I know that the son never had for long and I a don't think she ever had one for long either. It has been about a year with no sign of relapse.
Prostitution allowed her to survive. It was also a choice that she did not want to maintain. But there was no abuse that I know of in their relationship. She could have easily have left him when he was in jail. They could have easily gone their separate ways when in prison. But that was not the case. I thought that they were both lifers, people that go in and out of the system but getting off of opioids freed them so that they could be the decent people they were underneath.
That case is not a ringing endorsement, but I doubt if you will find one. Perhaps if sex workers were viewed differently. But they as a couple could separate sex and love in a good way.
I think there are many variables with situations people find themselves in, yet I still don’t think prostitution is the best answer. Having said that, I want to stress that my main issue is not against the victim or the sex workers who are often making desperate or unhealthy choices, but with the pimps who abuse and control and the buyers who use women and men as objects. And now children, as child pornography and trafficking is skyrocketing.
I appreciate you sharing the experience of your housemate’s son and girlfriend. Sounds like they had a rough road for a number of year’s years. Glad to hear they got past that and are doing well.