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Somes like something unattractive people like to pull out their donkey.
Sexy doesn't = clever, kind, funny, etc. though they can add to it.
Is your gender only about your appearance?
This seems to stem from the somewhat simplistic notion of wanting someone "to like me for me." A notion which ignores the fact that your face, body, hair, style of dress, and mannerisms are all "you," along with your personality, likes, dislikes, talents, job, bankroll, and kind of car you drive. Everything that is a part of what you are and do comprises the totality of "you," in terms of what another person may find attractive or not. So, to arbitrarily deny the validity of certain aspects of "you," based on a naive "moral" judgements, seems to be the more shallow position to me.
And, insofar as it relates to homo/heterosexuality, I assume that people who hold the opinion that finding physical attraction valuable is shallow, compartmentalize fundamental sexual preference as "part of you" and not a "shallow" trait.
I would actually say that we are more then out bodies, and that when someone says they want to be liked for who they are, it means they dont want to be reduced to their physical appearence. Its like... our appearenece is part of us, but nothing more then a part. At least thats my perspective, I dont know if it makes sense to anyone else.This seems to stem from the somewhat simplistic notion of wanting someone "to like me for me." A notion which ignores the fact that your face, body, hair, style of dress, and mannerisms are all "you," along with your personality, likes, dislikes, talents, job, bankroll, and kind of car you drive. Everything that is a part of what you are and do comprises the totality of "you," in terms of what another person may find attractive or not. So, to arbitrarily deny the validity of certain aspects of "you," based on a naive "moral" judgements, seems to be the more shallow position to me.
And, insofar as it relates to homo/heterosexuality, I assume that people who hold the opinion that finding physical attraction valuable is shallow, compartmentalize fundamental sexual preference as "part of you" and not a "shallow" trait.
I would actually say that we are more then out bodies, and that when someone says they want to be liked for who they are, it means they dont want to be reduced to their physical appearence. Its like... our appearenece is part of us, but nothing more then a part. At least thats my perspective, I dont know if it makes sense to anyone else.
That said, I dont think its shallow to find some things attractive and some things unattractive. Its shallow to only consider that, though.
Well, almost no one considers only that. A body without a consciousness in it would pretty much be a dead body and most people are not into necrophilia (AFAIK)
What does happen is a lot of people find physical atributes to be the biggest turn ons when it comes to sex and other attributes to be almost of non importance.
Say, whether she is funny or book smart is laregely unimportant to most men I know when it comes to a fellatio or coitus.
I would actually say that we are more then out bodies, and that when someone says they want to be liked for who they are, it means they dont want to be reduced to their physical appearence.
Its like... our appearenece is part of us, but nothing more then a part. At least thats my perspective, I dont know if it makes sense to anyone else.
In my experience, the younger a male is, the more looks matter, and the more other attributes are ignored or overlooked -- at least, initially. I think by the time males get into their thirties, other attributes are becoming increasingly important.
Just my two cents.
I had a friend in high school who was attracted to a boy with a really cool muscle car. They had sex and she formed a warm and fuzzy oxytocin bond to him. They got married right after graduation.
Five years later, she was divorced and with two kids. It turned out he wasn't good keeping up with child support. She came to realize that she'd made a mistake in this sense: She had expected more than she got without much reason to expect more than she got.
So, yeah, some things about other people that might attract us to them are things that add little or nothing to whether we will get from those people what we feel we want and need. If you go solely for looks, for instance, while expecting someone to hang in there during the tough times, you might be a wee bit disappointed when they take their looks along with them to the next guy.
In my experience, I'd say that people are generally terrible at identifying and choosing partners who will be a well-rounded, good match for them until their 30's. And usually after a number of failed relationships. Of course, there are no small number of people who never learn, no matter how many times they're presented with the same lesson. I suppose one has to have the ability to change and grow themselves in order to change relationship patterns.
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Really? I haven't seen that too much.I ve heard a lot around this forum that if you like someone's personality but you dont find this person sexy because you dont like hir body, then you "are" "superficial"
Imo, physical attraction is an important part of sex and arousal, and that includes the person's sex.Is this different when it comes to homo/heterosexuality?
If so, Why?
What else is it about?Is your gender only about your appearance?
Freudian slip?