When toxic masculinity is brought up, there are inevitably those who will confuse the term with saying something like, "masculinity is toxic."
I'm reminded of this excellent meme:
[GALLERY=media, 9498]Ntm by Meow Mix posted Jun 24, 2021 at 1:36 AM[/GALLERY]
Now, I'm of course inclined to believe that things like "being polite" and "convictions" aren't unique to masculinity (the same could be said for everything on the list); but I'm fairly certain that the wholesome people depicted in the meme do identify as masculine.
So while virtuous traits aren't exclusive to masculinity or femininity (just like toxic ones aren't, either), it could be said at least that this is what toxic masculinity doesn't look like.
Edit: So I didn't phrase this very well, and I will try again: I think the meme would be better served by showing good examples of when masculine-identifying people do something specifically in opposition to toxic masculinity rather than just listing virtues that could apply to any gender. It's still good to see virtuous masculine-identifying people other than that; but the point would be better served if a meme were like "this is a toxic masculinity behavior, here is a masculine person not doing that."
I'm reminded of this excellent meme:
[GALLERY=media, 9498]Ntm by Meow Mix posted Jun 24, 2021 at 1:36 AM[/GALLERY]
Now, I'm of course inclined to believe that things like "being polite" and "convictions" aren't unique to masculinity (the same could be said for everything on the list); but I'm fairly certain that the wholesome people depicted in the meme do identify as masculine.
So while virtuous traits aren't exclusive to masculinity or femininity (just like toxic ones aren't, either), it could be said at least that this is what toxic masculinity doesn't look like.
Edit: So I didn't phrase this very well, and I will try again: I think the meme would be better served by showing good examples of when masculine-identifying people do something specifically in opposition to toxic masculinity rather than just listing virtues that could apply to any gender. It's still good to see virtuous masculine-identifying people other than that; but the point would be better served if a meme were like "this is a toxic masculinity behavior, here is a masculine person not doing that."
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