Shredmeister
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I am not at all okay with this.
He is 17 and did this behind his mother's back(we divorced years ago) and didn;t bother discussing it with me first.
A mere 7-8 months ago he claimed atheism. Then he joined a baptist church because a girl he was seeing went there. He said at that point that he did believe in God now. Hmmm......then she broke up with him and he didn't believe in God again. Then one day he said to me that he didn't eat pork anymore. "Pigs are filthy animals" he said. I responded "Did you watch Malcolm X or something??? Because that sure sounds like someone else's words and I am quite certain that line was spoken in that movie." "No, that's from me." Yeah, ok. I pressed further and asked if "this week" he was going to be Jewish or would he be muslim? He said neither. I told him chickens were filthy creatures as well, picking food out of their own waste.
So Father's Day comes and goes. He made little slip-ups but never admitted it.
Finally I got it out of him.
Why am i so outraged? Well........he has pretended to be many things in his teen years. More than what is normal. This is the latest example of him being something he is not.
I have asked him if i am now the infidel. If i am the enemy. He said no. If holy war were declared, I asked, and he were ordered to kill me would he try? He said no. I expressly told him i didn't approve of this latest stunt and that he didn't fully know what he was getting into. All the information he was given was from a mosque. He read all pro, no neutral, and no con. He is claiming that the beheadings, 9-11, suicide bombers, and attacks on Christians and jews here and abroad are largely fabricated and exaggerated.
Oh but there is more.......he got his *** in a sling last year in school for some threats he made. I'll leave it at that. But let's just say the mentality he exhibited gives me great concern.
I have since denied him the privilege to see his brother or sister until he gets out of this religion. It is very difficult to do and I may soften my stance, but for now this stands. I gave him the choice between islam and his family and asked if he thought it was worth it. He said he wasn't leaving islam, but that he still wanted to see his family. I told him he would have to decide and live with his decision. Though he never said he wanted to lose the privilege of being with his family, he refused to get out of islam. So i told him it sounded like he made his decision.
I am mainly doing this to buy time while i figure out what I need to do.
I have been researching islam from all sides. Much of what I have learned is disturbing. Like the 9 year old wife, Aisha, situation. Muhammad was in his 50s. Gross. He was also murderous. He tortured. If people did not convert to islam allegedly muhammad's interpretation of allah's wishes was to kill those people.
That said, I know a lot of people who are muslim who are perfectly wonderful. From my dentist to people I attended school with to close friends of my Mother. however, they were born into the faith and didn't suddenly sign up because they thought a certain muslim girl was cute, and NOT after making large-scale threats against a number of people.
I know I will likely be persecuted by some for this. But please bear in mind that i am not happy with his decision and that my reaction is temporary until I figure things out. That is why I am here. I know that I am opening myself to being judged and scorned. However, i do not know anyone here and I have only been researching this religion for a few weeks. I have no doubt that there are many here who can communicate with me in a helpful manner.
I would like some advice from fair-minded individuals on the matter. Especially if any of you have experienced something similar.
He is 17 and did this behind his mother's back(we divorced years ago) and didn;t bother discussing it with me first.
A mere 7-8 months ago he claimed atheism. Then he joined a baptist church because a girl he was seeing went there. He said at that point that he did believe in God now. Hmmm......then she broke up with him and he didn't believe in God again. Then one day he said to me that he didn't eat pork anymore. "Pigs are filthy animals" he said. I responded "Did you watch Malcolm X or something??? Because that sure sounds like someone else's words and I am quite certain that line was spoken in that movie." "No, that's from me." Yeah, ok. I pressed further and asked if "this week" he was going to be Jewish or would he be muslim? He said neither. I told him chickens were filthy creatures as well, picking food out of their own waste.
So Father's Day comes and goes. He made little slip-ups but never admitted it.
Finally I got it out of him.
Why am i so outraged? Well........he has pretended to be many things in his teen years. More than what is normal. This is the latest example of him being something he is not.
I have asked him if i am now the infidel. If i am the enemy. He said no. If holy war were declared, I asked, and he were ordered to kill me would he try? He said no. I expressly told him i didn't approve of this latest stunt and that he didn't fully know what he was getting into. All the information he was given was from a mosque. He read all pro, no neutral, and no con. He is claiming that the beheadings, 9-11, suicide bombers, and attacks on Christians and jews here and abroad are largely fabricated and exaggerated.
Oh but there is more.......he got his *** in a sling last year in school for some threats he made. I'll leave it at that. But let's just say the mentality he exhibited gives me great concern.
I have since denied him the privilege to see his brother or sister until he gets out of this religion. It is very difficult to do and I may soften my stance, but for now this stands. I gave him the choice between islam and his family and asked if he thought it was worth it. He said he wasn't leaving islam, but that he still wanted to see his family. I told him he would have to decide and live with his decision. Though he never said he wanted to lose the privilege of being with his family, he refused to get out of islam. So i told him it sounded like he made his decision.
I am mainly doing this to buy time while i figure out what I need to do.
I have been researching islam from all sides. Much of what I have learned is disturbing. Like the 9 year old wife, Aisha, situation. Muhammad was in his 50s. Gross. He was also murderous. He tortured. If people did not convert to islam allegedly muhammad's interpretation of allah's wishes was to kill those people.
That said, I know a lot of people who are muslim who are perfectly wonderful. From my dentist to people I attended school with to close friends of my Mother. however, they were born into the faith and didn't suddenly sign up because they thought a certain muslim girl was cute, and NOT after making large-scale threats against a number of people.
I know I will likely be persecuted by some for this. But please bear in mind that i am not happy with his decision and that my reaction is temporary until I figure things out. That is why I am here. I know that I am opening myself to being judged and scorned. However, i do not know anyone here and I have only been researching this religion for a few weeks. I have no doubt that there are many here who can communicate with me in a helpful manner.
I would like some advice from fair-minded individuals on the matter. Especially if any of you have experienced something similar.