My mother called me a burden, recently.

[Earthtank]

I am going to comit

You don't have the right to say that. Hate speech is not a right, neither is trolling.

Who's trolling? What hate speech? Seems you just want to come here to vent and hope everyone agrees with you but, can't handle being told and shown how ungrateful and disrespectful you have been towards your mother.

 

[A Vestigial Mote]

Look, you know more about your mother than anyone here does. Maybe you should cut her some slack, maybe you shouldn't. But whatever you do, if you aren't happy with your actions or the results, it's on you.

You don't have to listen to a single word from anyone here, obviously. None of us can dictate your worth to you. You hold the key to your own sense of worth. And if you partake only of actions and words that you believe to be "worthy," then you will naturally experience a high sense of self-worth. This is what I try to do, and I know for a fact that no one can tear me down with mere words. Not even my mother or father - were they to try.

 

[BSM1]

Rosebud..

 

[bobhikes]

I am autistic with some mental illnesses. I told my mother I feel like a burden because of my mental health issues, and instead of validating me, she said it is a burden, to which I responded: Don't expect me to take care of you, when you are old, you ****ing *****! I hate my mother. She apologized, but I don't trust her enough to believe her. People are not burdens.

I'm sorry to say it but people are burdens and we put up with the burdens of the ones we love. I have a wife and 2 kids with no major health issues and they are all a burden to me. I can't go through a day without thinking of them before making a decision about myself. I will forgo my happiness for theirs. It is at times a major burden but I can handle it because of my love. It is the same with God you are burdened everyday in life but that doesn't mean God doesn't love you.

 

[Hockeycowboy]

People are not burdens.

They certainly can be, if they’re able to help out but are just lazy!

(I understand that you have health issues, so it probably doesn’t apply to you.)

Don’t kid yourself, though...people can take advantage of situations, and be a burden to their care-givers, and never be grateful.

I’ve lived with it.

 

[Hockeycowboy]

Life in this system isn’t fair, but for many, it’s about attitude.

Life is 10% what happens to you, but 90% how you respond to it.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

It is not a burden, and she had no right to say that. I am a goddam person, not a condition. Reported.

If you have autism, then it means you have tendencies able characteristics that enable a doctor to make such a diagnosis. Such as me, those who know anything about Aspergers typically can tell in an Aspie. Because that's what I am. Just as bipolar, schizophrenia, or major depression are a part of the person who has them. Of course they are still people, but the symptoms of those disorders are just as much of a part of that person a their being left or right handed. It just is. Efforts can be made to improve conditions, but Autism doesn't go away, and yes it is a burden. For those with it and caregivers.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

Hate speech is not a right,

Actually it is.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

They certainly can be, if they’re able to help out but are just lazy!

I've certainly experienced that, and lazy people are terrible burdens. Consuming resources, making messes, not cleaning, not contributing, playing games all day instead of finding work, those are the worst burdens, in my opinion.

 

[Rival]

Actually it is.

Not in this country.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

Not in this country.

Nor in Canada. But here it most certainly is.

 

[YeshuaRedeemed]

Actually it is.

No it isn't. You don't have the right to say hateful things.

 

[BSM1]

No it isn't. You don't have the right to say hateful things.

Well, actually you do...

 

[Dawnofhope]

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