So there is this terrible misconception that the media "dictates" to us what we must find beautiful.
The media certainly has an influence and even a big one, but people seem to think it is almost omnipotent, yet the ignore the basis for what the media does:
The media gives us what we want.
If an advertizement is not giving you what you want, you dont care.
If tomorrow, you saw an advertizement telling you how you can use this pill to stop being so skinny (you can look this up, there were advertisements like this in the newspapers) you are not likely to magically take it.
Now, " "the" media" is not a one single thing.
If tomorrow all the people in advertisement and media (ALL OF THEM) started to put fat people as an example of sexy, YES, people will. Increasingly see fat as sexy.
Nw I want you to think on this for a moment, is question is very important:
Why with all the big companies of fattening products (McDonalds, Baskin Robbings, Coke-Cola, take your pick) have not tried to advertize a fat body as being sexy?
Remember people on a diet will buy way less of their products. I want you to think, and dont just drop the first answer from your head.
You are the owner of Coca Cola/McDonalds, and you dont care about people.'s health, and want to advertize fat is sexy so all this people that are limiting their consumption to your product stop doing such.
Can you do it? How?
You're criticizing the specific idea that what is beautiful, and what the media says is beautiful, are either essentially unrelated or that nothing is inherently beautiful, and that the media is powerful enough to dictate to people what is beautiful.
A scenario closer to the truth is that the media's conception of beauty and real beauty are inherently related, but not in a healthy way.
Something approaching the idea of objective beauty exists in nature on a species by species basis. It's not entirely arbitrary what humans are generally attracted to from the perspective of evolutionary biology. For example:
-Things like clear skin, adequate height and fitness, reasonable symmetry, long shiny hair, and lack of any visible health problems, are often associated with beauty, and the reason that evolutionary biology gives us for their being nearly universally considered beautiful, is that they are signs of health, and therefore signs of reproductive success. There are a range of healthy body sizes and shapes, with some indicating a greater degree of speed or strength, and others indicating that a person is well-fed and has nutritional reserves. Body shapes outside of this range, like severe obesity or severe malnutrition, start becoming health problems and the majority of people view them as not ideally attractive.
-Specific secondary sex characteristics like a male beard or female breasts indicate reproductive maturity, the time at which a person becomes able to reproduce. The male beard offers no major functional benefits, and to counter any negligibly small benefit that might exist (chin warmth?), it's also a physical liability in any fight due to its nature as an effective handle. Female breasts have the specific purpose of feeding infants, but research has shown that their size is not correlated to their milk producing capabilities in any meaningful way above a baseline level of size and functional development. Additional size is made up of fat, which has a visible purpose but not a functional one, and like a male beard can also have some physical drawbacks. So a beard (including a shaven one) offers an immediate visual cue that a man is above reproductive age, and breasts offer an immediate visual cue that a woman is above reproductive age.
-Similarly, some physical characteristics indicate age. Large eyes and small features can indicate youth, which in a very young sense can result in a desire to nurture that being. In adult sense, several clear things change with age, like hair loss for men, the lengthening of the upper lip for both sexes, and wrinkles, and fertility also decreases with age after a certain point. So a degree of youth is also assigned to beauty in many cases, especially in the more limited sense of sexual attraction.
-More broadly, secondary sex characteristics indicate fertility. In males, the presence of testosterone is correlated with fertility, and testosterone level can make itself known with bone growth, muscle growth, and hair growth. In females, some studies have shown that certain waist to hip ratios are statistically more fertile, that large breasts indicate statistically higher estrogen levels, plus all signs of youth are relevant.
-Behavior is also an aspect of physical beauty. Research shows that people judge smiling faces to be more physically attractive. Smiling and other positive indicators of well-being can show health and fitness, which are useful for the brain to quickly understand in the reproductive sense. Healthy teeth are a particularly good indicator, especially in older times.
So there are a broad number of beautiful combinations with a degree of subjectivity, but it's related in an objective way.
There may be tiny statistical outliers that don't follow the norms at all, like being attracted to only those over 500 pounds, or only those with major physical injuries, or only those below reproductive age, but they are in the tiny minority and one can imagine this would impact their reproductive success. There are also homosexual people, a much larger minority than this other tiny minority, which are attracted to the same sex, but do generally have essentially the same overall preference for features that indicate health and fitness and happiness.
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The media starts to get involved in an unhealthy way, if magazine covers located at every check-out line in every store show literally unreal people- selected from ideal candidates and painted and Photoshopped.
It also gets involved if almost every movie, television show, news show, and commercial star attractive people in the main roles, once again with make up and from a distance, and then go a step further and statistically show people with certain characteristics in negative roles, like people that are balding, or people with large noses, or people with certain other features, and keep feeding this idea that those characteristics are related to moral or intellectual inferiority.
Basically, when the media takes only what is most attractive in nature, and then amplifies it to an artificial level that literally nobody exists at, and then reflects this back on everyone by portraying these artificial ideals as
normal, then it's certainly not having a positive impact on human self-esteem for most people.