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Marriage

Discussion in 'Interfaith Discussion' started by Ceridwen018, Aug 6, 2004.

  1. Ceridwen018

    Ceridwen018 Well-Known Member

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    Is marriage the end all be all for you, or is there always divorce? What is more important in a marriage do you think--love or mutual goals?

    How does your religion (or lack thereof) affect your opinion of marriage? Do you think that current divorce rates are a problem, or just a sign of the times?

    Phew, that's a lot of questions!
     
  2. Zohaib

    Zohaib New Member

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    Marriage for me would be the end all be all for me. I think what both love and mutual goals are important in marriage. For me it would be more about love. I think that if you have love then you will understand each others goals. My religion (Islam-Submitter) does not affect my opinion of marriage. In Islam there aren't many restrictions on marriage. The only restriction is that one has to marry a person who believes in God. I think that current divorce rates are just a sign of times. Most people these days don't think before getting into marriage. Sometimes I wonder why arranged marriages have such a less divorce rate than regular marriages. I would assume arranged marriages to have a higher divorce rate.
     
  3. Runt

    Runt Well-Known Member

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    I'm a realist. I think marriage should be forever and should be powered only by love (should work out regardless of what other problems exist because 2 people love one another), but I know that people A) make mistakes, B) can fall OUT of love, C) can find it difficult to live with someone despite how much they love them (like, a couple loves one another, but can't resolve the issue of children. One wants 'em, the other doesn't, neither will compromise, so the only option IS to get a divorce and find someone else to love who can provide the preferable lifestyle). Therefore, I am glad that divorce is a possibility.
     
  4. Ceridwen018

    Ceridwen018 Well-Known Member

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    Yes...I agree that divorce is often necessary. It can be prevented though if people take the proper 'precautions', such as working out an issue like children before getting married.
     
  5. dolly

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    Runt basically said what I would have.
     
  6. Bastet

    Bastet Vile Stove-Toucher

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    I'll admit, I'm a hopeless romantic...so marriage is all about love for me. I don't look at the prospect of marriage and think "Oh well, if it doesn't work out, I can always get a divorce". I am happy that divorce is there, because, as has been pointed out, many people go into marriage, not thinking everything through first. They don't think about where they'll be 5, 10, 15 years down the track. People do grow apart, but I am still romantic enough to hope that it doesn't happen to me and mine. That is, of course, assuming I will be legally allowed to marry at some point in the future.
    Mutual goals do factor in, of course...and I think it's best that (even though it's totally unromantic), things such as children (how many/when/can you afford it/their early care/schooling etc.), careers (whether both will work/will that change with kids on the scene, and it is affordable/who should stay home if so, etc.), where you'll live (you'd be surprised at what an issue that can be), household duties (who does what/when...or should you just get a maid LOL), etc. should all be discussed and agreed/compromised on, before marriage.
    I also think that living together before marriage is a good thing. I know some people will pull out that old tired argument "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free", but I believe in "try before you buy". Even if two people are totally, madly in love, they may not be capable of physically living together, and sharing a household, when push comes to shove. Better to find that out beforethe rings are exchanged.
    I think the divorce rates of today are just a sign of the times...whether it stays the way it is now, or gets better or worse, remains to be seen. Maybe if people started putting a little more thought into their relationships before tying the knot, divorce rates would drop.
     
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  7. Mercellus

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    Marriage is ordained of God. 1 Corinthians 11:11 says "Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord."

    Marriage is very sacred and should be established with love, trust, understanding, charity, hope, faith and a desire to do that which is right.

    "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ so loved the Church and, and gave himself for it;" (Ephesians 5:25)

    I encourage everybody to read "The Family: A Proclamation to the World" put out Sept. 23, 1995 by the First Presidency and Quorum of the Twelve Apostles of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. The advice and doctrines presented therein are worth adhering to.

    Here is the link: http://www.lds.org/library/display/0,4945,161-1-11-1,00.html
     
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  8. Scott1

    Scott1 Well-Known Member

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    Hello and welcome Mercellus!

    I look forward to reading more from The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

    Peace,
    Scott
     
  9. Mercellus

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    Scott,

    I look forward to talking more with you and others about my beliefs. I love learning about others as well. I had an opportunity to serve a mission for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in the Philippines and saw how the Catholic Church operates there. Met some very wonderful people, a priest and arch-bishop. Very wonderful, kind and knowledgable people.

    Let me know if you have any questions about what you read from the LDS Church, and I will do all I can to answer them. I'd love to learn more about Catholicism as well.

    Thank you.
    Abe
     
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