Love in its simplest state: that which affects one to give of themselves. It is not an emotion but when emotion (postive or negative) is attached we are taught to call it love or hate.
It is possible to love someone but not like the way they behave, most cannot seperate the two and that curently is where humanity is at, judging people by their behavior and then placing the verdict in which ever section of prejudice or bigotry we think it fits.
I know most won't appreciate this paragraph but for me, it sin't about being right, its about getting it right. For those of you who embrace the teachings of old, its not about cutting down the tree, maybe prunning it, shaping it up because religions are not getting ahead of the problem and in some cases the problem itself.
I would think that if some kind of "love one another" is the central theme behind the religious thought, what is getting in the way of it succeeding? Maybe because we don't really understand love?
hatred and discrimination are based on forms. they aren't based on actions. hatred is a learned behavior that has its foundations in fear.
hatred is when someone projects experiences of one person on to another person with similarities.
like a white/black person who has been conditioned to believe that levels of melanin make someone superior/inferior.
being angry because someone has wronged you, is a healthy and positive emotion.
transferring hatred on to others; when they have committed no wrong against you because they have similarities of a person from a certain class of people, usually is not.
someone can be angry at someone for their negative actions towards another, or other; which aren't loving. above all we should treat everyone the same. loving someone doesn't allow them to control others with abusive behavior; while portraying out of control behavior themselves.
depraved indifference to someone's suffering is also not healthy.
so yes, you can be loving while correcting negative behavior, or actions. it benefits both the anti-social person and their intended victim by limiting the control that the abusive perpetrator is manifesting. this is why counselor's ask, "are you planning to harm someone, or yourself?". its simple human kindness to treat everyone the same and not excluding self.
