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Looks Versus Personality

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Cynic, Dec 11, 2007.

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Looks or Personality?

Poll closed Dec 21, 2007.
  1. Looks

    8.3%
  2. Personality

    91.7%
  1. Cynic

    Cynic Well-Known Member

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    What do you ultimately find yourself attracted to, a person's looks, or their personality?
     
  2. Storm

    Storm ThrUU the Looking Glass

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  3. Don Penguinoini

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    Im saying this honestly, looks. But, i do need a good personality too. So i am with Storm with this, but looks have the edge.

    Im 13 people, dont grill me.
     
  4. ChristineES

    ChristineES Tiggerism
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    The initial thing that would attract someone would be looks, but the thing that would keep them together would be personality. ;)

    I can't lie, I do notice good-looking men, but I just notice them. After I get to know a person, what they look like means nothing to me, what they are means everything. :)

    One last thing: Love is a great beautifier (to coin a phrase).
     
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  5. Nanda

    Nanda Polyanna

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    Ultimately, personality. If they look pleasing to me, it doesn't hurt the situation, but personality is more important.
     
  6. eudaimonia

    eudaimonia Fellowship of Reason

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    That's how it is for me. Though personality can also attract initially.


    eudaimonia,

    Mark
     
  7. Ciscokid

    Ciscokid Well-Known Member

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    I think a good personality can really make someone sexy.

    I went on a first date with this girl that had quite the nice body...but she was angry at the world and sounded like all she did was complain all day. I left the pub about an hour later or so. :(
     
  8. Cynic

    Cynic Well-Known Member

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    I feel that personality matters more to me now, rather than looks. Looks matter, but only to an extent.
     
  9. ChristineES

    ChristineES Tiggerism
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    I would rather date (if I wasn't married, that is) an ugly or homely kind-hearted person than some pessimistic, sadistic, or mean-spirited person who was extremely handsome. I think that is true of most people, even if they don't say so.
     
  10. Scarlett Wampus

    Scarlett Wampus psychonaut

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    A great personality is exciting for a while but once you get to really know someone it doesn't seem so significant. Then you're just left with the looks.
     
  11. Nanda

    Nanda Polyanna

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    Until they wither and fade away. ;)
     
  12. Buttercup

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    Initially, it was almost always looks that attracted me first but if his personality isn't pleasing after a short period of time, looks are inconsequential.

    Still, I'm attracted to both my husband's looks and his personality. Even after being together nearly 10 years I enjoy looking at him...gives me great pleasure, especially in the morning for some reason.
     
  13. standing_alone

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    *throws up a little*
     
  14. Buttercup

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    Awww, shut up. I can't help it that sometimes a cliche is true. :eek:
     
  15. Cynic

    Cynic Well-Known Member

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    Do you think that looks vs personality may be genetically as well as environmentally determined? I have seen good looking women and men, date very unattractive people (although it could be for money or status). I have also seen both men and women avoid dating a person unless if they were hot.
     
  16. mrscardero

    mrscardero Kal-El's Mama

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    I have been with cardero for 7 years. His personality attracted me more then his looks. I have the complete package. Even though looks may fade away his personality won't. He will always make me laugh and he will always be a gentelman.

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  17. Smoke

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    Ultimately, personality. But looks aren't unimportant.
     
  18. Hema

    Hema Sweet n Spicy

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    Both, but if you love someone it is ultimately because of personality because one day we're all going to grow old and physical beauty fades with time. When you love someone, he/she is always beautiful in your eyes.
     
  19. Hema

    Hema Sweet n Spicy

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    Aw, how sweet! That's how I feel about my hubby wubby too. :)
     
  20. Don Penguinoini

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    Im on my own (check the poll)
     
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