This is a false analogy. Everyone's abilities and impediments are unique to them. What can act as a solution for any one of us cannot be held up as a given solution for anyone else. Which is what your analogy is ultimately doing. Some of us will "find another way" because we CAN. Some of us will not find another way because we CANNOT. And the reason that we cannot will be as varied and unique as we all are, and as each of our real circumstances are.
Of course the solution for one person is not the same as the solution for another but I do not believe that people CANNOT find a way other than breaking the law. If everyone said they CANNOT help themselves from stealing in order to get
what they think they need, what kind of a society would we be living in? Should people be able to do whatever they WANT to do just because they think there is no other way?
You have no idea what choices they really have, because you have no idea what their abilities and impediments are. You just think you do, because thinking you do gives you the illusion that you have the capacity to pass judgment on others, and the ability to avoid the misfortunes that they are facing. Both very pleasant delusions that many of we humans allow ourselves to engage in at the expense of others.
That is a straw man. I am not passing judgment upon anyone. Of course I have no idea what their abilities and impediments are, but so what? My question is as follows: should people be able to DO whatever they WANT to do just because they think that they have no choice in the matter? Should people be able to DO whatever they WANT to do just because they have some misfortunes?
I think that love and compassion needs to be tempered by equity and justice.
And if it's "good" religion, it also teaches us to be selfish in equal measure (as we are just as valuable to God and humanity as any other human being is: no more, but also no less).
I do not know what religions you are thinking of, but Jesus clearly said to deny self. That does not sound like He was promoting selfishness.
Matthew 16:23-26 But he turned, and said unto Peter, Get thee behind me, Satan: thou art an offence unto me: for thou savourest not the things that be of God, but those that be of men. Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it. For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul?
Or perhaps you are thinking about this verse:
Mark 12:31 And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.
There has been an update since Jesus walked the earth. The Qur’an and Baha’i Faith say that we are to
prefer our brother to ourselves.
“Charity is pleasing and praiseworthy in the sight of God and is regarded as a prince among goodly deeds. Consider ye and call to mind that which the All-Merciful hath revealed in the Qur’án: ‘They prefer them before themselves, though poverty be their own lot. And with such as are preserved from their own covetousness shall it be well.’ 7 Viewed in this light, the blessed utterance above is, in truth, the day-star of utterances. Blessed is he who preferreth his brother before himself. Verily, such a man is reckoned, by virtue of the Will of God, the All-Knowing, the All-Wise, with the people of Bahá who dwell in the Crimson Ark.” Tablets of Bahá’u’lláh, p. 71
We are ALL "hapless victims of circumstance" a great deal of the time. And it's very important that we maintain the wisdom and the courage to always recognize this, even as in our minds we so much want to imagine and pretend that we are 'in control' of everything. Because it's this delusion that we are so 'in control' that encourages us to judge and condemn each other for our lack of control, when in truth it was a fantasy to presume ourselves in control to begin with. If you really want to seek out a single human trait that does us all the most harm, it's not selfishness, it's this delusion that we are so in control of everything, all the time, when we are not. Because that delusion is what drives us to turn our backs on each other, in false superiority and condemnation, every day of our lives. It's why the rich think it's their duty to have so much more than everyone else. And why everyone else blames each other for not getting what they need, want, or think they deserve.
I believe that we have free will so I do not believe that we are hapless victims of circumstance. However,
that does not mean I think that we can control everything. I think that we can make choices. So if something does not go the way we want we just make another choice. I think that selfishness is the root of all evil and the cause of most problems in the world. If everyone put God and others before themselves the world would be a paradise. The illusion is to think that we are happier “getting something” for ourselves when true happiness comes from doing for others.
Then you, as much as anyone, should be able to recognize and understand that a solution is not a choice when one is unable to recognize it as such. A man can starve to death in a room made of food if he cannot recognize what food is when he sees it. So when you pass judgment on that mother for stealing food for her child and herself, because YOU think there were other solutions for her to choose from, you are presuming that YOUR ability to see those other solutions gave HER a choice. But in fact she had no choices but those she was able to see, at the time. And you have no idea what those were. Your judgment of her is based on yourself, and not on anything you actually know about her.
That is a straw man to say I pass judgment on anyone. The fact that I state that I consider stealing wrong in principle does not mean I judge someone for that behavior. What you might not realize is that she is hurting herself more than anyone else, so if anything I have compassion for her because there is always a better way, even if she did not see it at the time. Stealing food once is no big deal but it is not a permanent solution to the problem. I am solution-oriented.
How do YOU know that she had no choices but those she was able to see at the time? You are making some assumptions based upon your own beliefs about people being hapless victims of circumstance with no free will. Maybe she knew there was another choice, but it was just easier to make the choice she made.
So, ask yourself why you were doing this, and I think you will find that it's because doing so appealed to your ego (made you feel superior to her), and because it masks over the fear you would feel if you were facing the truth of just how little in control of anything we humans really are.
It is your own ego that tells me about my ego, because you do not know that I want to feel superior to her. I am not trying to feel superior to anyone. I simply do not think people are helpless victims of circumstances. I believe they have free will to make choices. That changes your whole paradigm and means people are responsible for the choices they make. You have free will so you are free to think people are helpless if you want to, and I have free will so I will believe that they are not. That does not mean we can control
everything, but it means we can make choices. I made the choices I made and I paid the price. I do not blame anyone for the choices I made or feel sorry for myself for what happened to me.