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Liberal Christians: Do you consider sex before marriage to be a sin?

Discussion in 'Liberal Christianity DIR' started by Doodlebug02, Apr 29, 2009.

  1. Doodlebug02

    Doodlebug02 Active Member

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    Hi everyone. I was just wondering how many people on here think that sex before marriage is a sin? As for me, it's not a sin in my eyes. :no:
     
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    Trey of Diamonds Well-Known Member

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  4. Doodlebug02

    Doodlebug02 Active Member

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    Well, it's nice to know that I'm not alone. I honestly expected to have more responses than this by now though.
     
  5. Karl R

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    In the bible, each sin falls into one of two categories:
    1. Actions that are harmful to others.
    2. Actions that are harmful to ourselves.

    Certain promiscuous behaviors can meet one or both of those criteria. However, sex within a committed relationship is unlikely to be harmful to either party. So it's going to depend on the situation.

    Does that mean those who explicitly identify as liberal christians, or does implicit identification count as well?
     
  6. uu_sage

    uu_sage Active Member

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    Sex before marriage is not a sin. People are free to do as they will so long they
    don't harm themselves or their partners.
     
  7. aequitas

    aequitas Member

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    May i ask what actually defines a "Liberal Christian"?
     
  8. Al Bundy

    Al Bundy Dook Sux

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    What's your number? :D
     
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    Kathryn Most Spoiled Woman Ever

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    I would also like to see a good definition of "liberal Christian."
     
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    sojourner Annoyingly Progressive Since 2006

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    If marriage is a sacramental act, and, if sex is an expression of that sacrament, then, yes, premarital sex is a sin, because it points us away from God, and toward ourselves.
     
  11. FLEXin

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    No, if you are in a committed relationship with a view to marriage and as long as you are not intentionally hurting yourselves or each other
     
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    If you self-identify as one, it counts whether you do so explicitly or implicitly.
     
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    Just wondering... why call it 'pre-marital' sex instead of unmarried sex?

    No one knows for sure that they will marry either that person or another in the future, after all.
     
  14. jlow

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    I'm new here. Hi! Sex before marriage a sin? I believe sin is separation from God, God is all about healthy, healing relationships. People are waiting much longer to get married than my generation - in most cases that's probably a good thing. I think tthe act of sex itself is not a "sin" between 2 consenting adults (gay or heterosexual; married or not). They gotta respect any objections that a partner may express.
     
  15. Katzpur

    Katzpur Not your average Mormon

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    Okay, I'm not a "liberal" Christian and I do believe sex outside of marriage is a sin. That said, I don't intend to try to debate the point. I'm just wondering how "liberal" Christians interpret scriptures such as 1 Thessalonians 4:2-3, which states, "For ye know what commandments we gave you by the Lord Jesus. For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication." Since it doesn't appear to me as if this is a verse that could be interpreted in a whole lot of ways, I'm wondering if you think that God has changed His mind since these words were written or what? (I'm having a really hard time thinking of what "what" means. ;))
     
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    but commands of God are not meant for this or that person ((depending on situation)). they are meant for every single person in the name of offering equality inbetween individuals. because God does not discriminate people. how would you solve this dilemma?






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    I suppose that "God changed His mind" is one way to put it. I think it's very important to look at the Bible as something that addressed the issues of its time. We should inspect these sorts of passages nowadays with a critical eye. The Bible condemns fornication to encourage a conservative, family-centered society. This is not what we necessarily have in modern American society, where often people date a lot and like to take their time "settling down."
     
  18. Karl R

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    As a liberal christian, I would have to go back to the original Greek text, then study the history and society of Thessalonia to determine what the original Greek word meant in the context of that culture at that time.

    Following that, I would have to find some information to determine what was occurring at the church in Thessalonia at the time of the letter. The Pauline letters were generally written to address specific problems in specific churches at specific times.

    In modern times, it seems that fornication means, "whatever my church says it means." As a liberal christian, that's not an acceptable answer. I'll base my behavior off scripture that I do understand (the great commandment and the golden rule) until I have enough information to make an informed decision about this passage from Thessalonians.

    Do you have some scriptural basis for this belief?

    My response to Katzpur began to answer your first comment, but I'll elaborate.

    There's a story about Confucius (roughly paraphrased):
    A man was standing with Confucius when one of Confucius' students approached.
    Student #1: Master, when you give us an instruction, should we put it into practice immediately?
    Confucius: How can you put it into practice immediately? Your parents are still alive.
    Shortly thereafter, another student approached.
    Student #2: Master, when you give us an instruction, should we put it into practice immediately.
    Confucius: Of course you should.
    After the student left, the baffled bystander addressed Confucius.
    Bystander: Master, those two students asked you the same question, but you gave them completely different answers.
    Confucius: Yes. The second student is timid and needs to be encouraged. The first student is a fanatic and needs to be restrained.

    I don't believe Confucius is in any way equal to god.

    However, I don't believe christians are any smarter than Confucius' students. We require instructions that are tailored specifically to our circumstances. However, we're so conceited about our own intelligence that we believe we can pick up a bible and perfectly understand the lesson we're reading.
    Even though it was addressed to someone else.
    Even though it was translated once or twice since then.
    Even though it was given 2,000 (or so) years ago.
    Even though we have made no effort to understand the culture or society it was given in.

    If I say, "My coworker went postal," you would understand what I meant.
    If I said the same phrase 30 years ago, a listener would have drawn a completely different meaning from that statement.

    The language I've learned from birth has noticeably drifted during my lifetime. Yet you're convinced that the message in the bible is immutable, even though the language and culture have undisputedly changed since the words were written.
     
  19. maggie2

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    No, I do not believe that sex between unmarried people is a sin.
     
  20. ZooGirl02

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    Heh, that's a good point! I personally see nothing wrong with unmarried sex. :)
     
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