This is silly, axe-grinding stuff now. Societies of the era when these religions arose were patriarchal. That's just a fact. Nothing to do with "fear".
The word for God, in any language, needs from time to time to be substituted by an appropriate personal pronoun, in the construction of text. Given the patriarchal bias of the era it is natural that in Hebrew it would be masculine. In Christianity this goes further in that the imagery is of a father and a son, so God has a male sex as well as masculine gender (Though the Holy Spirit seems to escape sexual characterisation). But it is just natural for the culture of the time.
(In fact, I've always thought it likely that one of the reasons for the cultivation of Mary, in the older branches of Christianity, is to restore a bit of balance of the sexes. Some subjects were and are often easier to talk to a man about and others to a woman.)