Sunstone said:
That's a fair question, Rhonda, but I would rather you tell me what kind of deception you'd tolerate and what kind you wouldn't than that I narrow the debate and discussion on this subject by specifying some type of deceit to be debated.
I think this is a really good question, Phil.
Probably the only kind of deceit I would not tolerate from my husband is if he had sex with another woman and hid it from me. If he told me straight outright, I would be hurt and angry but would hope we could work it out somehow, some way. It would depend on if it was a one night stand or a long term affair. I obviously would have a harder time with a long standing relationship.
I'm sure my husband flirts and so do I. It's a normal part of life. I don't expect him to tell me about every woman he finds intriguing. If he took it to the next step and actually had physical sex with someone and was deceitful about it,
that would be a big deal to me.
On the other hand, what if someone pretended to be far nicer than they actually were?
Truthfully, I have never run across this. It's pretty easy to figure out quickly if someone is as nice as they appear to be don't you think? I consider myself an excellent judge of character though so this usually isn't a problem.
Would you object to that more or less strenuously than you would object to an unemployed person telling you they were a lawyer?
It depends on what type of relationship me and this person were in. Still, I don't care for that blatant type of lying.
Again, what if someone hid their religion from you or misrepresented it? Would you object to that?
I wouldn't like it but if they gave reasons I found reasonable for misrepresenting their religion I might understand.
And if someone hid their politics from you or misrepresented them?
Same as above.