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Is it ethical for a single person to have children?

Discussion in 'Family and Personal Living' started by Veyl, May 15, 2022.

  1. Veyl

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    Curious as to people's thoughts on this. I don't really have a desire for children, but if it ever developed, this would be my only avenue for it. Hence questions of morality came to mind.
     
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  2. sun rise

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    I don't see it as a moral issue. If you can care for a child adequately, then you've also answered a practical question. And if I were you, I'd want to talk with single parents about the challenges involved as well.
     
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    I think its more difficult to raise a child on one's own(been there, done that). I don't really see it as immoral, though. I guess it would depend on one's morality(which only an individual can answer).
     
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    I don't think it's immoral to have kids outside of wedlock. I think it's actually fairly normal.
     
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    I know one that raised/raising two on her own through inseminations, it have never crossed my mind whether that was an issue or not in regards to morality. I mean the children seem happy enough, so don't see an issue with it personally.
     
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    I don't know of any ethical issues that come to mind. It seems perfectly ethical to me and often is something that actually takes place.

    I think the main issues would be those of practicality. Time, resources, etc.
     
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    I don't see an issue
     
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    Why not? So long as you can give the child a loving environment, it is fine.
     
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    "Single person?" This is nitpicking. The question is, is it moral for anyone to have children?
    What is the projected carbon footprint of a child in your region, born today?
    What is the carrying capacity of this planet, at current rates of human resource usage?

    Morality is a question of harm. Think about it....
     
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    I believe the quality of parenting matters the most, rather than the number of sources of it.
    And happy birthday!
     
  11. Secret Chief

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    Is the OP asking about marriage?
     
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    If you struggle with negative feelings, are poor, don't have friends and family or have trouble relating to people then you may want to consider not having a child as a single parent.

    Technically it is relatively moral to rear a child, but you could still suck as a parent which could erase a lot of that...but not all of it. To exist is a gift. Now think about the best life a person can have. You could potentially start someone on their way to that! You could help start a great person on their way. On the other hand you could cause them to have crippling deficits that they will never be able to cope with. The positives outweigh the negatives. The cost to you will be high, but the benefits could also be high.

    No parent is perfectly well rounded. Not only this but you can rarely see your own weaknesses as a parent. Smart parents get together with other parents, set play dates, have regular visits, talk about schools and problems that parents have, take turns babysitting etc.
     
  13. Hermit Philosopher

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    Hi @Veyl

    Personally, I’d ask whether it’s ethical to voice an opinion on someone else having/ not having children, full stop.

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  14. Aštra’el

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    The ideal situation involves the child being raised by a father and mother who love and respect them and work hard to provide opportunities for them, who exist as a positive influence in their children’s lives, and can provide a roof over their heads and food on the table, and teach them to survive and adapt in a harsh yet beautiful world.

    That won’t always be the case unfortunately… but if a single parent puts their heart into being the best father or mother they can be then I have nothing negative to say about it.
     
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    My only worry would be latchkey children.

    Isolation is not a good situation in general if there is no parent around to watch over the kid.
     
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    Depends on what exactly you mean.
    Do you mean as in donor insemination?

    If you mean donor insemination, then it depends on whether you have a backup plan (and if others are going to get along with it) in case you happen to die before your children reach adulthood. This is generally a concern that most parents that don't need to have since it is quite rare for both of them to die early on. You would need to be able provide for your children economically all by yourself so it is definitely a bad idea if you are not well off in your life.
     
  17. Polymath257

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    Two questions:

    1. Is it moral to have children?

    Given how overpopulation is affecting our planet, is having children something that we should be doing?

    The answer to this depends on a lot of factors, including what sort of education and values you intend to instill in the new person.

    2. Is it moral for a single person to have a child?

    For some, there is no choice. If there was a partner, and that partner died or left, leaving a single person to raise the child. It can be done. It is even done frequently. It alone has no moral stain.

    So the question is whether it is moral for someone *initially* single to enter into raising a child.

    I would say that it depends on the energy level, the resources, the network of friends, etc. It also means the child is more likely to become an orphan. So simply being responsible means these issues need to be thought through and dealt with.

    After that, I see no further moral issue.
     
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    IMHO:

    Ethical or not "for you", is none of my business. You were given your life and are now totally free to do with it as you like, and need not even worry about what others say/fantasize about it

    And to cancel concerns others might have:
    1) Your child might solve climate problems
    2) (s)he might solve...all they come up with

    Age 10 I knew "I never want to marry, nor get children". Was easy and clear to me. But even with my decision others found faults and told me...You are egoistic, you can't know that now, life is full of surprises. They were all wrong, I just knew...age 10

    In short: you know what is best for you, of all the 8 billion people "only you know", all other humans fall in the category "believers" if they think to know what you should do, even Atheists:D, whether they like it or not, but usually they are way to smart, hence they won't tell you what you should (not) do, Theists might tell you though:D

    ( :)So, I probably managed in 1 line to make sure to get zero frubals on this one)
     
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  19. Veyl

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    Thank you all for your feedback. I suppose to some degree it was a matter of overthinking the matter.
     
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    If a single adult asked it then a single child is without a guardian parent love kindness and care. As a question gets answered by another question...should any child be without love and adult guidance?
     
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