The reverse= Marriages that aren't ruined by sexual incompatability.The reverse of what?
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The reverse= Marriages that aren't ruined by sexual incompatability.The reverse of what?
And there is help available to overcome those addictions. It's up to you whether or not you choose to get it.There are addictions. No we can't be made to do anything, but addictions are extremeley hard to break and the porn/adult industry knows that.
No - and I've never said we should. I just want us to look beyond the obvious, because the obvious is very likely wrong. It is too easy to just say "we are incompatible" and leave it at that. It would be more useful to ask why we are "incompatible":So we should all just live in a white room with nothing and be sheltered our whole lives then so nothing has an impact on us.
Again, the object gets the blame and the reponsibilty, and not the individual. We all possess free will. Nothing makes us do anything.
Soyleche said:The same can be said for marriages that are "ruined" by "sexual incompatability".Mr_T said:If your marriage is "ruined" from porn it goes deeper than weak minds.
So we should all just live in a white room with nothing and be sheltered our whole lives then so nothing has an impact on us.
Again, the object gets the blame and the reponsibilty, and not the individual. We all possess free will. Nothing makes us do anything.
But Victor, is that porn's fault that marriages are hurt? Or is it the individuals?
Do we blame it on cocaine when we make it illegal? Both alter the mind. One just gives you immediate results, while the other is more on a pychological level.People let porn ruin their marriage and then society blames it on porn instead of the individual.
Of course not, just like consuming alcohol won't make someone's problems go away.There's all kinds of things out there that can have a negetive impact on your life. Sheltering yourself from these all these things will not make them, or your problem (not you specifically) go away.
Actually both.....but I already know we disagree on the word "fornication". It's for good reason the Bible was strict about sexuality and all it's dealings.You control on what has an impact on you and what doesn't. There is a verse from Paul that says soemthing like" do not let yourself be mastered by anything." The problem is the "you" not the "porn."
You're right.Anyways we should really get back on topic since this thread is not about porn.
However, we can remove from our lives that which causes the most danger and train ourselves to make the best choices.
If porn is shown to be only destructive, like a nuclear weapon, it should be eliminated from our lives.
Guns and nuclear weapons are bad cause they hurt people.No, I am not arguing that we should completely sterilize our lives. After a complete sterilization process, we would still be mortal and die.
However, we can remove from our lives that which causes the most danger and train ourselves to make the best choices.
If porn is shown to be only destructive, like a nuclear weapon, it should be eliminated from our lives.
Guns and nuclear weapons are bad cause they hurt people.
And porn/premarital sex, has yet to proven as only destructive and put us in danger. what's good for some is not good for other and vice versa. Porn and premarital sex being bad and "hurting" people, is relative and usually is only labeled bad by organized religion.
That we do. People can't just go out and buy a gun any more. But If they're so bad, why not make the "thing" completely illegal?The individual should be held responsible, but eliminating the "thing" (could be guns, drugs, or some other mind altering item) that influences or directly causes harm is something we currently do already.
So ban alchohol so that never happens again. Who cares if it's not harmful to milions of people. People get hurt by it so it should be completly outlawed. That'll fix it right?But with that line of argument, you may just blame yourself for something stupid you may do when you get drunk. Sure it was YOU that did and should be held responsible, but to say alcohol didn't play a role in your behaivor would be stretching it, don't you think?
Guns and nuclear weapons are bad cause they hurt people.
And porn/premarital sex, has yet to proven as only destructive and put us in danger. what's good for some is not good for other and vice versa. Porn and premarital sex being bad and "hurting" people, is relative and usually is only labeled bad by organized religion.
Organized religion makes the biggest stink about such things and gives them the "bad" label.Not sure what organized religion has to do with this, but oh well.
Mister_T, would proof really make a difference to you? Since you seem to react just fine to it, why would it matter?
No skin off my back.That we do. People can't just go out and buy a gun any more. But If they're so bad, why not make the "thing" completely illegal?
I was using alcohol in conjunction to your line of reasoning. Of course it's not going to completely resolve the problem. I'm not one that would promote for such a thing simply because it's not the same.So ban alchohol so that never happens again. Who cares if it's not harmful to milions of people. People get hurt by it so it should be completly outlawed. That'll fix it right?
Oh I believe the person should be held responsible alright, but I don't believe the person would do such a thing if he was sober. Do you?You let alchohol rule you. You bought the drinks. You drank them. Nobody put a gun to your head. You are responsible. Not alcohol.
Well, that is the inadvertent affect of any instituation that has standards. It's no different on an individual, except you replace the instituation for yourself.Organized religion makes the biggest stink about such things and gives them the "bad" label.
I'm guessing your answer is a "no"?Would proof in favor of such things make a difference to you? Since you react just fine without it? We all have a set of beliefs.
But this only happens to a handful of people. These people have a psycological problem. That is not porn's fault.Hema said:Mister_T. I respectfully disagree. Actually, Ted Bundy who raped and killed 50 women and girls said that porn shaped his behaviour
I'm sure they had other things in common as well. Porn is quite common in todays society.Hema said:According to a study conducted by a group of psychologists, Neil Malamuth of UCLA, Gene Abel of Columbia University, and William Marshall of Kingston Penitentiary, various forms of pornography can elicit fantasies which may lead to crime. Out of a test group of 18 rapists studied who used 'consenting pornography' to instigate a sexual offence, seven of them said that it provided a cue to elicit fantasies of forced sex.
A study released by the University of New Hampshire has proven that the states which have the highest readership of pornographic magazines such as Playboy and Penthouse also have the highest rape rates. The Michigan State Police department found that pornography is used or imitated in 41 percent of the sex crimes they have investigated.
Probably not. But then again, if he exercised some self control, he wouldn't have done such a thing.Victor said:Oh I believe the person should be held responsible alright, but I don't believe the person would do such a thing if he was sober. Do you?
There lies the crux of the whole thing. Most people can't control themselves.Probably not. But then again, if he exercised some self control, he wouldn't have done such a thing.
Is there a medal for debating six people at once? If there is, I deserve it.
Fair enough. My brain is fried. :bonk:There lies the crux of the whole thing. Most people can't control themselves.
Let's agree to disagree. But in all that is historical, there is little doubt that Christians throughout the ages (of all denominations) have seen such activities as "sinful". The idea that it is not is but a new phenomenon.