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Internet dating thread Avoiding scams

Discussion in 'Family and Personal Living' started by Riders, Jan 26, 2020.

  1. Riders

    Riders Well-Known Member

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    I am talking to a friend now on ok cupid who is not a scam artist.

    I have a whole new system in place. I do 2 things. First under my profile for what Im like its one big warning to scam artists.

    Scam artists will never meet you in person the ones who are on dating web sights. In order for a professional scam artist to scam someone in person, he has to be a professional pro and has to pick out a rich widow, someone with a lot of money. He has to put on the act of being love with them and not seeing anyone else, at the time they are conning them out of their wealth.

    In order to do that, they want to be rich, they don't want to scam a welfare person in person because they could only date one person at a time, they don't become a professional scam artist to get 500 bucks off a welfare card.

    So those who date in person, because I am not wealthy I am safe from money scandal. ( of course, there are married men and folks with stds and other stuff but this is just talking about money scams)

    So they try to make you think your in love with them on the phone through text and internet chat. That way if they get my measly 700 bucks they can date 10 other people at the same time and make 10000 in a month so.

    But anyway, so they start out making you think they are getting to know you and talk you into thinking your in a relationship with them though you have not met them and never will.

    Then they talk you into believing they are sick and need money or make up some kind of story.

    So my introduction basically says if you are not going to start dating me taking me out pretty soon after we introduce ourselves do not contact me at all. I also said if you live too far away are sick or don't have a car or can not pick me up or looking to get to know me through email, or looking for a long-distance relationship do not contact me.

    I realize there are some nice guys who might say, well I would like to take my time to get to know you through email and texts first so we can build a relationship and take it slow and I am a nice guy.

    I realize that but there has been too many scam artists contact, sorry I may have to get rid of some nice guys to keep the scams away.

    Anyways the other thing I am doing is this. Ok Cupid lets me like though those who have looked at my profile, and I can contact some of them. So I am actually not allowing myself to speak to or even consider anyone I have not spoken to and sent a greeting already. I go through their profiles, the guy I am talking to now just wants a friendship is older and lives close to me so.

    This way I am in control of who contacts me. Just some advice for those who might be on the net looking.
     
  2. Riders

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    I put this up before but there are military scams too. I almost got taken by a guy who claimed to be a military guy trying to date me but I figured him out before hand.

    They have profiles pictures of military men claim to be in the military. They claim to be in the military and and at war sometimes making good money. Then they scam you by telling you they need money to get back to the US or something like that, I never got that far with scam artist but I think that's what they do.

    The thing is we women like military guys, they look handsome in their uniforms
    they are tough, we assume they would be good protectors, they know how to use guns etc. People assume Military men are good Christian people, it is a stereotype, but they are defending their country so women assume they make good providers are more moral then other people,
    and are good Christian family men. It is a stereotype and easy to get pulled into. They make good stable money. They are tough can fight I mean its like you know the whole Knight and Shinning armour stereotype.

    We women still get pulled into the fairy tale and I think Military men full fill that. But when I was talking tot he guy I became suspicious, immediately. Why would a good looking strong fit military man want with dating me, an obese older woman?

    I called him out earlier on by asking him to give me his writing address. He said he was on a top secret mission and it was secret. I gave him my email address though I did not trust him. I guess a part of me still wanted the fantasy,

    But then I realized he was speaking in broken English though his profile said he was raised up in Texas.

    The way he wrote did not make sense, I said your speaking in broken English, missing words and letters. He said no it was because he just did not understand all the internet terms like OMG that type of thing. I told him I said I am not that stupid your not from America dude, you got to prove to me you really are in the military and he went off on me and went into a rage. He was a nutty.I got rid of him before I was scammed.

    I use to ask the question why do so many of us get taken when it is obvious it is not real. But so many of us want to think and believe its real, the fairy tale a Military guy who wants to build a family with us its a fairy tale.

    But I have met men in AA and NArcotics anonymous with PTSD and addicted tod rugs and alcohol who came out of the war in the military, so its just fantasy it's not real. It's a fairytale. Military men are human and make mistakes like anyone else. But so many women want to believe.

    I lobe both out men and women in the military and I back them up. I am not embarrassed to say I made a fool out of myself over thinking this guy was in the military.

    I think it is normal. I love men in a uniform, who can protect and are strong and have the nice military cuts, yea they are cool. It is not an embarrassment for me. But I now realize military men do not post and advertise for romance on dating sights. They can get dates from military women. I knew a woman who was married to a military man in the old folks home I was at 2 years ago too who also talked about this.

    She said if he is a real military guy who wants to date you he will give you his military number and also his real life writing address,. If he can't do that he's scamming.
     
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    This is the fairytale
     
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    So on Dr Phil. we have a 71 year old woman who has been duped out of more then 300000 300 thousand 3 hundred thousand geez her 401 k and everything for a man on the internet she met through dating app. He talked her into getting divorced from her husband and says he is a millionaire and is going to make her rich lives in Africa of course .

    I can't believe women fall for it it is sad.
     
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    Oh he stuck in AFrica she says had malaria got bedbugs, got robbed and can't meet her of course and cant get out of Africa and she gives him money.
     
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    What site is your profile on?
     
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    I am on OK CUpid but so far I am avoiding the scams. But like I said not talking to anyone I do not introduce myself to first.
     
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