Indian couple sue son and his wife, demanding grandchildren

[We Never Know]

In other news....

NEW DELHI — A retired Indian couple is suing their son and daughter-in-law, demanding that they produce a grandchild within a year or pay them 50 million rupees ($675,000).

Sanjeev Ranjan Prasad, a 61-year-old retired government officer, said it was an emotional and sensitive issue for him and his wife, Sadhana Prasad, and they cannot wait any longer. His son, a pilot, was married six years ago.

https://www-nbcnews-com.cdn.ampproj...sue-son-wife-demanding-grandchildren-rcna2886

 

[Sgt. Pepper]

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NEW DELHI — A retired Indian couple is suing their son and daughter-in-law, demanding that they produce a grandchild within a year or pay them 50 million rupees ($675,000).

Sanjeev Ranjan Prasad, a 61-year-old retired government officer, said it was an emotional and sensitive issue for him and his wife, Sadhana Prasad, and they cannot wait any longer. His son, a pilot, was married six years ago.

https://www-nbcnews-com.cdn.ampproject.org/v/s/www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/rcna28863?amp_js_v=a6&amp_gsa=1&usqp=mq331AQKKAFQArABIIACAw==#aoh=16529945848874&referrer=https://www.google.com&amp_tf=From %1$s&ampshare=https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/indian-couple-sue-son-wife-demanding-grandchildren-rcna2886

I saw this story in my FB news feed, and I almost posted it, but decided otherwise. I don't know what to say. It's unsettling to me.

 

[Polymath257]

Sounds to me like some people need to mind their own business than stop thinking that their children are obligated to doing what they want.

 

[Sgt. Pepper]

Sounds to me like some people need to mind their own business than stop thinking that their children are obligated to doing what they want.

I wonder if their demand has something to do with their culture. I don't know anything about Indian culture to say, though.

 

[Brickjectivity]

In other news....

NEW DELHI — A retired Indian couple is suing their son and daughter-in-law, demanding that they produce a grandchild within a year or pay them 50 million rupees ($675,000).

Sanjeev Ranjan Prasad, a 61-year-old retired government officer, said it was an emotional and sensitive issue for him and his wife, Sadhana Prasad, and they cannot wait any longer. His son, a pilot, was married six years ago.

https://www-nbcnews-com.cdn.ampproject.org/v/s/www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/rcna28863?amp_js_v=a6&amp_gsa=1&usqp=mq331AQKKAFQArABIIACAw==#aoh=16529945848874&referrer=https://www.google.com&amp_tf=From %1$s&ampshare=https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/indian-couple-sue-son-wife-demanding-grandchildren-rcna2886

For that amount I am willing to give them some grandchildren. No problem.

 

[Polymath257]

I wonder if their demand has something to do with their culture. I don't know anything about Indian culture to say, though.

I'm sure culture has something to do with their expectation and sense of entitlement. It wasn't that long ago that you saw similar views expressed (maybe not in the legal system) commonly in the west.

 

[We Never Know]

I wonder if their demand has something to do with their culture. I don't know anything about Indian culture to say, though.

I guess he wants his money back with interest lol

The fathers says "“We want a grandson or a granddaughter within a year or compensation, because I have spent my life’s earnings on my son’s education,” Prasad told reporters on Thursday.

Prasad said he spent 3.5 million rupees ($47,300) for his son’s pilot training in the United States.

“The main issue is that at this age we need a grandchild, but these people (my son and daughter-in-law) have an attitude that they don’t think about us,” Prasad said.

“We got him married in the hope we would have the pleasure of becoming grandparents. It has been six years since their marriage,” Prasad said. “It feels as if despite having everything we have nothing.”

 

[Sgt. Pepper]

I guess he wants his money back with interest lol

The fathers says "“We want a grandson or a granddaughter within a year or compensation, because I have spent my life’s earnings on my son’s education,” Prasad told reporters on Thursday.

Prasad said he spent 3.5 million rupees ($47,300) for his son’s pilot training in the United States.

“The main issue is that at this age we need a grandchild, but these people (my son and daughter-in-law) have an attitude that they don’t think about us,” Prasad said.

“We got him married in the hope we would have the pleasure of becoming grandparents. It has been six years since their marriage,” Prasad said. “It feels as if despite having everything we have nothing.”

So, their demand is based on greed, selfishness, and a sense of entitlement, then?

 

[Subduction Zone]

I tried to find more about this case, but there is not much other there. No one can seem to get the son and daughter in law's side of the story. But from a CNN article I found this interesting tidbit:

It's also sometimes a legal duty: parents can claim a monthly allowance from their adult children under a federal law that seeks to protect parents and senior citizens who may not be able to take care of themselves.

I can see it now: Son, can I have my monthly allowance? Son: "I don't know, did you mow the lawn?"

 

[We Never Know]

So, their demand is based on greed, selfishness, and a sense of entitlement, then?

Seems that way.

 

[The Hammer]

Typically in India I think it's common for a person to care for their ageing parents, who care for their grandkids in return. As a way to ensure both get care.

 

[Polymath257]

I guess he wants his money back with interest lol

The fathers says "“We want a grandson or a granddaughter within a year or compensation, because I have spent my life’s earnings on my son’s education,” Prasad told reporters on Thursday.

Prasad said he spent 3.5 million rupees ($47,300) for his son’s pilot training in the United States.

“The main issue is that at this age we need a grandchild, but these people (my son and daughter-in-law) have an attitude that they don’t think about us,” Prasad said.

“We got him married in the hope we would have the pleasure of becoming grandparents. It has been six years since their marriage,” Prasad said. “It feels as if despite having everything we have nothing.”

No, they do not *need* a grandchild. They *want* one. Their children are under no obligation to fulfill that desire. The parents, on the other hand *were* under an obligation to raise and educate the children *they* chose to have.

Unless there is a contract saying the education money was specifically conditioned on having a child, they should have no case. Whether they do or not may depend on the legal system there.

 

[We Never Know]

Typically in India I think it's common for a person to care for their ageing parents, who care for their grandkids in return. As a way to ensure both get care.

I think its that way in Japan.

 

[We Never Know]

No, they do not *need* a grandchild. They *want* one. Their children are under no obligation to fulfill that desire. The parents, on the other hand *were* under an obligation to raise and educate the children *they* chose to have.

Unless there is a contract saying the education money was specifically conditioned on having a child, they should have no case. Whether they do or not may depend on the legal system there.

I agree. However "the court accepted their petition and scheduled it for a hearing on Monday in Haridwar, a city in northern Uttarakhand state, media reports said."

 

[Polymath257]

I think its that way in Japan.

it was the way in most societies until fairly recently. Even the nuclear family in the West is pretty new. Not that long ago, several generations would live under one roof.

 

[Twilight Hue]

In other news....

NEW DELHI — A retired Indian couple is suing their son and daughter-in-law, demanding that they produce a grandchild within a year or pay them 50 million rupees ($675,000).

Sanjeev Ranjan Prasad, a 61-year-old retired government officer, said it was an emotional and sensitive issue for him and his wife, Sadhana Prasad, and they cannot wait any longer. His son, a pilot, was married six years ago.

https://www-nbcnews-com.cdn.ampproject.org/v/s/www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/rcna28863?amp_js_v=a6&amp_gsa=1&usqp=mq331AQKKAFQArABIIACAw==#aoh=16529945848874&referrer=https://www.google.com&amp_tf=From %1$s&ampshare=https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/indian-couple-sue-son-wife-demanding-grandchildren-rcna2886

One would think a box of chocolates and some flowers would set things rolling with a lot of alcohol thrown in.

 

[VoidCat]

And if the wife and husband are infertile? Are the husband's parents just going to punish them for something they can't help? Kids don't owe their parents grandkids. To have a child solely for that reason and not cuz you'd actually want kids and can care for them would be selfish and detrimental to the child.

 

[stvdv]

We got him married in the hope we would have the pleasure of becoming grandparents

So, it's their own fault, case closed...they just got him married to the wrong girl. They did it themselves. Any judge must come to that conclusion

 

[Aupmanyav]

I wonder if their demand has something to do with their culture. I don't know anything about Indian culture to say, though.

It is definitely so. It is a debt that every Hindu has to pay - Pitri Rina - debt to forefathers. They can adopt one, that will be OK, no problem there. In Hinduism, an adopted son or daughter has all the rights of a biological son or daughter. No continuation of line, no one to perform remembrance rituals (shrāddha), result - unsatisfied suffering ancestral souls.

"They were said to owe three debts: study of the Vedas (owed to the sages); a son (or daughter, to the ancestors); and sacrifice (to the gods)."
Hinduism

https://www.google.co.in/search?q=t...YwLjM5LjGYAQCgAQGwAQrIAQjAAQE&sclient=gws-wiz
Ṛṇatraya (‘three debts’) - Hindupedia, the Hindu Encyclopedia
Five Dharmic Debts (Rin) of Every Hindu - Have you paid yours ?

 

[Aupmanyav]

It's also sometimes a legal duty: parents can claim a monthly allowance from their adult children under a federal law that seeks to protect parents and senior citizens who may not be able to take care of themselves.

I can see it now: Son, can I have my monthly allowance? Son: "I don't know, did you mow the lawn?"

Yeah, it is mandated by law. They cannot shirk the responsibility. The father is not supposed to mow the lawn unless he so desires.