Namaste (salutations to God within you), Mike
First of all, welcome to the RF forum! There are some wonderful, supportive, knowledgeable people here who contribute wisdom from many different faiths, as well as skilled moderators who do a great job of keeping things civil.
It is the "I" based ego/personality speaking which causes you (and me and so many others!) such torment. I urge you to
be cautious of adding any modifiers after the words "I am." The universe is programmed to swing into line to make sure it manifests whatever modifier(s) you add to the phrase, adding and filling in any blanks, as it were, and then offers--oh my, insists!--on showing you its opposite. The eternal I AM is all that you are, nothing more, nothing less and It has no opposite. Everything else is a costume or prop on top of or somehow engaged with that Reality. It's not something you "go out and seek." It already is you so stand still, be still and let everything that isn't you fall off.
Thus, "I am hot, I am cold..." or "I know, I don't know"... or "I am insane, I am not insane," the dualities, in other words, the things which have opposites and flip sides, NONE of those are capable of describing or revealing the I AM of you, the God or whatever you choose to call it, the Light which you are. But all of them are statements/thoughts/feelings capable of swinging your mind to and fro. As you know from your studies, a stilled mind is a requisite for Self-realization. If one compares his mind to a lake, and the "enlightenment" one seeks as the reflection of the one Sun in that lake, the myriad thoughts are like pebbles (or boulders on some days, like mine today
) which cause ripples on the surface of the lake. Those ripples cause the lake to
appear as if there are many suns reflecting in it, even when we already know it is not so. And that's the source of the maddening, hand-wringing, curse-creating misery of dancing with duality to the point of forgetfulness of one's true being.
I am. Period. Only affirm That. If your mind insists on thinking, voicing itself and meddling with your meditations, until you succeed in getting it to quiet down to silence/stillness, only allow it to affirm that Truth... I Am. I'm pretty sure you've been taught to be mindful of your breath, too, as breath is to the mind as reins are to a horse, so inhale, exhale with a slow, intentional rhythm to help in the work of getting a handle on your mind. First things first, eh? And make sure to cast a warm glance in your heart, the
hrit padma. Because another name for I Am is mmmmmmm... LOVE! and that's where It lives, waiting for you and your embrace. Hugs.