I know you're not describing everyone...that's the problem: Everyone is having this problem. If everyone who was struggling followed what you call "pragmatic realism" because they were have a hard time trying to live here in Los Angeles, you wouldn't have a city left.
You make that sound like a bad thing T.
I know a retired lady in Westchester who lives in a 1000 square foot home with two bedrooms sitting on a postage stamp lot. Her house is worth over a million and she is struggling living on a pension and social security. In fact, she is a millionaire.
She could move elsewhere and be retired comfortably. I have spent many times on the west coast. I just don't get it. :sorry1: