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If you had to eulogize someone

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Curious George, Dec 22, 2018.

  1. Curious George

    Curious George Veteran Member

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    If you gave a eulogy for someone unrelated that you highly respected, how would you organize it, what would you praise?

    If you gave a eulogy for a close family member, would it differ in structure or content? If so, how?
     
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    Funny I was just thinking about eulogizing someone a non-family member but close friend.

    I would talk about our past relationship, how I saw his family grow during that time, how he expressed to me the good points of his family, his current relationship with me, how he currently expressed how he felt about his family and lastly why he'll be missed by me.

    I doubt it would differ much from a family member other than I would be the family that they grew with.
     
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  3. Earthling

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    No, they would both be the same. I wouldn't give a eulogy, it's nonsense.
     
  4. Vinayaka

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    I've done 3 eulogies ... both parents, and a student who died of asthma at 8 years old. I told stories, funny stories, mostly. You only speak of positives.
     
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  5. Curious George

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    You wouldn't publically praise another?
     
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  6. Curious George

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    I am asking what positives and how you would choose to structure those positives. Anecdotes are powerful, when in the eulogy would you use them? What are you trying to convey by using funny stories?
     
  7. Curious George

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    Would I be correct in saying you would praise the traits respectfulness and caring/loving? No others?
     
  8. Vinayaka

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    Not trying to convey anything, just keeping the house 'cheerful'. The structure was a mini biography, starting with where they were born, major life events, and stories about each, the typical stuff. Not too long either, although my Dad's was quite long. I didn't notice anyone yawning though. I kept very small note. That helped.
     
  9. Curious George

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    What characteristics did you try to highlight?
     
  10. Vinayaka

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    The positives, at both parents I knew the crowd so the stories usually involved people from the crowd. It was a tight rural community. Everyone knew everyone. The student was much harder. I was asked to do it by her parents, and felt I couldn't refuse them. But I used her classmates as a resource. To be honest, she wasn't that well liked, and I had to dig. But I only did the school portion. Her uncle did the family stuff.

    It really depends how well you knew the people.
     
  11. Curious George

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    I am asking what those are
     
  12. Vinayaka

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    honesty, enthusiasm for life, kindness, wisdom, parenting skills, patience, wit, sense of humour, neighbourliness, helpfulness, ... all the positive quality traits one can think of
     
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    Lots of anecdotes. People love stories. And they learn more from stories than from abstract statements.
     
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  14. Curious George

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    That is general. I am asking what you personally find good/noble in another person, how would you speak of structure praise of that in a formal publuc statement, and whether your degree of intimacy changes either of those two.
     
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    You're entitled to your opinion, but 'a nonsense'?
     
  16. Earthling

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    No. Nor would I even attend a funeral. The whole tradition just seems like a bit too much to me.
     
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  17. Curious George

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    Eulogies are not exclusive to funerals. Though they are generally used in funerals.
     
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    Yes, it's nonsensical. The entire spectacle is to me, nonsensical. I wonder how funerals have changed since becoming big business. I don't attend any of that nonsense. When me and my family go, it's cremation and no service. No nonsense.
     
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    It is quite odd, but sometimes you have to go just to help other people start their healing process.
     
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    Sure, I understand. To each his own. Just for myself, and my family, except for my younger brother, who was somewhat different, it's just not for us.
     
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