BHSU_Student
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Well, through my shyness venture, I have been paying explicit attention to people's body language, through personal interactions and studying the interactions of other people.
While I was personally interacting with women, I would look directly into their eyes, and hold that gaze longer than usual (this is a subtle way of communicating interest in a person). I would then study their reactions. What I've noticed are patterns of body language which I think communicate disinterest and interest.
There is what I call "social" gazing, which is the normal level of eye contact that occurs during interactions between two people. Eye contact is minimal. When a person is not interested in you, their eyes will communicate it... Their gaze behavior is "social." I found this especially to be true with women who are married. They will not look into your eyes much. Staring into theirs may elicit a need for them to avert their gaze. If they believe that you like them, and they aren't interested, they will avoid eye contact completely.
On the other hand, when the person is single and there is some kind of attraction, eye contact lingers. In fact, they can't take their eyes off of you when you talk to them. Their eyes become focused soley on you. If they are shy, this still happens, but when you are not looking.
I think that one cannot tell by gaze behavior alone. One must also be attuned to the facial expressions that accompany gaze behavior.
I also dichotomize facial expressions into "social" and interested categories. If they aren't interested, they will have still-face (their face seems expressionless). If they do smile, it does not last very long. Smiling generally has a social aura to it. It is faked (not a duchenne smile), and is there out of social politeness. The only apparent exception is when you make them laugh by saying or doing something amusing. But still, the smile fades after the affects of humor have evaoprated.
On the other hand, if they like you, their smiles are often wide (duchenne) and appears uncontrollable. Smiling lasts for long periods of time and can even last during the entire interaction. Smiling is usually accompanied by laughter, which occurs regardless if you're being funny or not.
While I was personally interacting with women, I would look directly into their eyes, and hold that gaze longer than usual (this is a subtle way of communicating interest in a person). I would then study their reactions. What I've noticed are patterns of body language which I think communicate disinterest and interest.
Gazing behavior
There is what I call "social" gazing, which is the normal level of eye contact that occurs during interactions between two people. Eye contact is minimal. When a person is not interested in you, their eyes will communicate it... Their gaze behavior is "social." I found this especially to be true with women who are married. They will not look into your eyes much. Staring into theirs may elicit a need for them to avert their gaze. If they believe that you like them, and they aren't interested, they will avoid eye contact completely.
On the other hand, when the person is single and there is some kind of attraction, eye contact lingers. In fact, they can't take their eyes off of you when you talk to them. Their eyes become focused soley on you. If they are shy, this still happens, but when you are not looking.
Facial expression
I think that one cannot tell by gaze behavior alone. One must also be attuned to the facial expressions that accompany gaze behavior.
I also dichotomize facial expressions into "social" and interested categories. If they aren't interested, they will have still-face (their face seems expressionless). If they do smile, it does not last very long. Smiling generally has a social aura to it. It is faked (not a duchenne smile), and is there out of social politeness. The only apparent exception is when you make them laugh by saying or doing something amusing. But still, the smile fades after the affects of humor have evaoprated.
On the other hand, if they like you, their smiles are often wide (duchenne) and appears uncontrollable. Smiling lasts for long periods of time and can even last during the entire interaction. Smiling is usually accompanied by laughter, which occurs regardless if you're being funny or not.
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