Spiderman
Veteran Member
I live with over 25 drug addicts currently, and I find myself judging them.
I see myself in them.
Today I judged one of the new guys and I don't know anything about him or haven't heard a single word from him.
I don't want to be a judgemental person. It isn't easy. I can't just flip a switch and suddenly, "I'm not judgemental anymore".
I truly love people. I just find it difficult to like them sometimes.
I think it is just often very ugly, immature, and selfish, to be a drug-addict, and a lot of these people are not trying to change, grow, be mature, or get well.
I was there. What I find ugly in them is I see myself.
Do you ever struggle with that? What works?
It isn't as simple as "try your hardest not to judge". I tried that already. Doesn't work.
I see myself in them.
Today I judged one of the new guys and I don't know anything about him or haven't heard a single word from him.
I don't want to be a judgemental person. It isn't easy. I can't just flip a switch and suddenly, "I'm not judgemental anymore".
I truly love people. I just find it difficult to like them sometimes.
I think it is just often very ugly, immature, and selfish, to be a drug-addict, and a lot of these people are not trying to change, grow, be mature, or get well.
I was there. What I find ugly in them is I see myself.
Do you ever struggle with that? What works?
It isn't as simple as "try your hardest not to judge". I tried that already. Doesn't work.