Runewolf1973
Materialism/Animism
I'm frustrated....
I have a full time job that entails shift work and I live with my fiancee who used to work part time. Now she is a stay at home mom with a 6 year old daughter that goes to school during the days. The problem is, when I come home from a 12 hour shift I usually come home to find that nothing was done. There is usually garbage and mess left lying around on the counters and tables, the dishes are not washed and the laundry keeps piling up. It really gets on my nerves when I spend all day at work and come home to a messy house. I don't get mad about it, but it does frustrate me. I will ask her if she is going to do the dishes or the laundry and she just gets mad at me, yells, and tells me that all she does around the house is clean and it's never good enough. So when I stop asking if it will get done, it still doesn't and I am still left frustrated. This is when I usually take it upon myself to do the dishes or the laundry or the tidying up. Then she gets ****** off and says that I'm just trying to make her feel useless. All I want is a house that is clean and tidy to come home to. I thought having a stay at home wife was a good thing, but I'm starting to think otherwise. I just don't know what to do anymore. I do love her and want her to stay, but every time it seems we'll get into a fight about the same thing every couple weeks or so and she'll threaten to leave. She says all I ever do is complain and it's never good enough. Thing is I am not a clean freak, I just feel as though she could do more. I just don't know what to do anymore. She does pay for some bills and stuff with the bit of money she gets, but somehow it just doesn't seem like things are 50-50. I really don't know anymore. Every so often she will get up and clean a lot, but that usually goes in spurts. She'll clean lots for a couple days then she'll go for three or four and do very little. The way I see it is the housework for a day could easily get done in just a few hours or so every day, but that's too much work? I don't get it. Am I just being unreasonable or is she just being lazy?
I have a full time job that entails shift work and I live with my fiancee who used to work part time. Now she is a stay at home mom with a 6 year old daughter that goes to school during the days. The problem is, when I come home from a 12 hour shift I usually come home to find that nothing was done. There is usually garbage and mess left lying around on the counters and tables, the dishes are not washed and the laundry keeps piling up. It really gets on my nerves when I spend all day at work and come home to a messy house. I don't get mad about it, but it does frustrate me. I will ask her if she is going to do the dishes or the laundry and she just gets mad at me, yells, and tells me that all she does around the house is clean and it's never good enough. So when I stop asking if it will get done, it still doesn't and I am still left frustrated. This is when I usually take it upon myself to do the dishes or the laundry or the tidying up. Then she gets ****** off and says that I'm just trying to make her feel useless. All I want is a house that is clean and tidy to come home to. I thought having a stay at home wife was a good thing, but I'm starting to think otherwise. I just don't know what to do anymore. I do love her and want her to stay, but every time it seems we'll get into a fight about the same thing every couple weeks or so and she'll threaten to leave. She says all I ever do is complain and it's never good enough. Thing is I am not a clean freak, I just feel as though she could do more. I just don't know what to do anymore. She does pay for some bills and stuff with the bit of money she gets, but somehow it just doesn't seem like things are 50-50. I really don't know anymore. Every so often she will get up and clean a lot, but that usually goes in spurts. She'll clean lots for a couple days then she'll go for three or four and do very little. The way I see it is the housework for a day could easily get done in just a few hours or so every day, but that's too much work? I don't get it. Am I just being unreasonable or is she just being lazy?
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