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Peace be upon you.
Peace and mercy of Allah be on you…… The teaching of Islam, the teaching which came to Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) guides us in every matter. If each of us becomes a practitioner of this guidance, a beautiful society can be established.
Today non-Muslim world raises objection against Islam and deeds of Muslims. They would have become follower of Islam by giving examples of models of Muslims if Muslims had practiced teaching of Islam in right way. But unfortunately, majority of Muslims recite this commandment of Allah the Exalted and greatly respect it but ignore it when time come to practice it. There are a lot of commandments in Holy Quran but Allah the Exalted gathered them in one sentence by saying: “laqad kana lakum fi rasullilahe uswatun hasana” … Surely for you, there is good model in the Messenger of Allah.
The whole life of Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him), from home to vast societal relations, was full of practice of the directives of Holy Quran.
So the real success can only be achieved when we keep this model before us in each matter.
Sometimes human show very good models in major issues, but matters which are apparently small are ignored as if these have no significance.
Contrary to this, Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) has drawn our attention to such small issues by his sayings and model.
If we want to make our lives peaceful, and want to get favours of Allah the Exalted then we need to make those morals part of our lives which our Master and Who is obeyed’ Hazrat Muhammad Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) presented before us in each matter, and then in this era, his True Servant presented these to us in detail, and drew our attention to practice these.
Hazrat Khalifatul Messiah V (may Allah be his Helper) said now he will say something about responsibilities of men in various roles s in this regard.
Man has responsibility as head of the house. He has responsibility as husband too. He has responsibility as father too. Further, he has responsibility as offspring. If each man understands these responsibilities and makes effort to fulfill these then it becomes way to establish vast peace, love and fraternity in society. These things become way of training of progeny. This peaceful progeny spreads and establishes human right. These things establish peace of homes.
These days problems and complaints of many houses come forward where the man, thinking he is head of the family and have all authorities, neither respect and pay due right of his wife, nor pay rights of training the children. It is headship by name only…..There are some complaints by women from India and Pakistan that husbands battered wives caused blues on skin or wounded and faces were made swell…..Rather some people in advanced countries commit these things….Some fathers treat little boys and girls badly up to the point of oppression.
IF even after believing Hazrat Promised Messiah (on whom be peace) they insist to live like ignorant people or like those Muslims who have no knowledge of religion, and treat their wives and children as ignorant people do -- THEN by making the pledge of change in their conditions, there is no benefit of coming in Bait of Hazrat Promised Messiah (a.s.).
Are men, at whom there is responsibility to fulfill their duty to pay right of God and to improve level of their practical conditions, doing so? If yes, then oppression can never take place in their homes.
As the head of house, Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) first of all, made the importance of Tauheed clear to his family. But he did this work with affection and love, not with use of stick. He (s.a.w.) paid rights of his family despite he was head of the family and he was very much occupied in reforming the world and establishment of Shariah. He (s.a.w.) paid these rights with affection, love and kindness.
In paying right of being head of family, he (s.a.w.) first of all created the awareness that their duty was to establish Tauheed and offer worship of Allah the Exalted. Thus Hazrat Aisha (r.a.) said, Holy Prophet (s.a.w.) would wake up at night to offer Nawafil, and then would make us to wake at early morning by sprinkling some water so that we should offer Nawafil and worship of Allah the Exalted -- pay the right which is of Allah the Exalted.
How he (s.a.w.) would pay rights of his family….. He would give helping hand in the works which were of wives’. Hazrat Aisha (r.a.) said, the time he (s.a.w.) would be at home, he remained busy in helping and serving family till he was called for Salaat and he would to mosque.
This is the model which we have to follow, and should follow, not to adopt such attitude with wives which is akin to oppression.
Hazrat Aisha (r.a.) mentions details of his (s.a.w.) domestic works: He (s.a.w.) would sew his dress, stitch shoes and repair bucket etc.
By keeping these models in view, many husbands should make self-accountability and pay attention whether if they have these attitudes in homes.
Holy Prophet (s.a.w.) told Companions (r.a.) about duties of husband [tradition narrated by Hazrat Abu Hurairah (r.a.)] that Perfect in Eman is the one whose morals are the best and the best among you moral-wise is the one who is good for his ladies.
Everyone who does not do good behavior with his wives, should make self review since practicing good morals and good behavior with wives is not only apparent moral. Rather he said, it is the sign of elevation of Eman.
Hazrat Promised Messiah (on whom be peace) mentions duties of husband and good conduct with wives, he (a.s.) said that Except fohasha [abomination, indecency, obscenity], all weaknesses-in-morals and bitter-nesses of women should be borne. We consider it complete shamelessness that, being man, to fight with woman. We are made man by God and it is actually completion of bounty for us. Thankfulness for this is that we should behave with women with courtesy and kindness.
Once a member’s harsh-temperedness and ill-talk was mentioned that he treats his wife with rudeness. Hazrat Promised Messiah (a.s.) became very sad with this thing. He said: Our friends should not be like this…….[The narrator wrote that] After that Huzur (a.s.) talked for a long time about good living with women and at the end he (a.s.) said: My state is that once I spoke loud to my wife and I felt that loud voice was mixed with sorrow of heart. Except it, I did not utter any harsh sentence. Despite that, I continued to say a lot of Istighfar and offered Nawafil with a lot of humbleness, and offered some charity, that this harshness to spouse is due to any hidden wrongness against God.
This is the model of Hazrat Promised Messiah (a.s.). He expressed his deep concern and pain when a friend acted harshly. He (a.s.) advised that the people who quarrel and hit wives for little matters, these people should come in senses….Those who wound wives, they have to think seriously. According to Holy Prophet (s.a.w.) the Eman of these people is not perfect….They should be worried about their Eman…..Due to this saying of Holy Prophet (s.a.w.), Hazrat Promised Messiah (a.s.) was worried if someone does not have those high levels of Eman he can stumble over at many places.
Apparently, these things seems small, but these are not small. In the advanced countries matters reach to police, then Jama'at gets ill repute. Such people get worldly punishment and displeasure of Allah the Exalted…….Some husband say, wife has this and that weakness that is why he has to be strict. Men should make self reviews from this angle first. Do they fulfill the standard of deen?
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Today non-Muslim world raises objection against Islam and deeds of Muslims. They would have become follower of Islam by giving examples of models of Muslims if Muslims had practiced teaching of Islam in right way. But unfortunately, majority of Muslims recite this commandment of Allah the Exalted and greatly respect it but ignore it when time come to practice it. There are a lot of commandments in Holy Quran but Allah the Exalted gathered them in one sentence by saying: “laqad kana lakum fi rasullilahe uswatun hasana” … Surely for you, there is good model in the Messenger of Allah.
The whole life of Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him), from home to vast societal relations, was full of practice of the directives of Holy Quran.
So the real success can only be achieved when we keep this model before us in each matter.
Sometimes human show very good models in major issues, but matters which are apparently small are ignored as if these have no significance.
Contrary to this, Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) has drawn our attention to such small issues by his sayings and model.
If we want to make our lives peaceful, and want to get favours of Allah the Exalted then we need to make those morals part of our lives which our Master and Who is obeyed’ Hazrat Muhammad Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) presented before us in each matter, and then in this era, his True Servant presented these to us in detail, and drew our attention to practice these.
Hazrat Khalifatul Messiah V (may Allah be his Helper) said now he will say something about responsibilities of men in various roles s in this regard.
Man has responsibility as head of the house. He has responsibility as husband too. He has responsibility as father too. Further, he has responsibility as offspring. If each man understands these responsibilities and makes effort to fulfill these then it becomes way to establish vast peace, love and fraternity in society. These things become way of training of progeny. This peaceful progeny spreads and establishes human right. These things establish peace of homes.
These days problems and complaints of many houses come forward where the man, thinking he is head of the family and have all authorities, neither respect and pay due right of his wife, nor pay rights of training the children. It is headship by name only…..There are some complaints by women from India and Pakistan that husbands battered wives caused blues on skin or wounded and faces were made swell…..Rather some people in advanced countries commit these things….Some fathers treat little boys and girls badly up to the point of oppression.
IF even after believing Hazrat Promised Messiah (on whom be peace) they insist to live like ignorant people or like those Muslims who have no knowledge of religion, and treat their wives and children as ignorant people do -- THEN by making the pledge of change in their conditions, there is no benefit of coming in Bait of Hazrat Promised Messiah (a.s.).
Are men, at whom there is responsibility to fulfill their duty to pay right of God and to improve level of their practical conditions, doing so? If yes, then oppression can never take place in their homes.
As the head of house, Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) first of all, made the importance of Tauheed clear to his family. But he did this work with affection and love, not with use of stick. He (s.a.w.) paid rights of his family despite he was head of the family and he was very much occupied in reforming the world and establishment of Shariah. He (s.a.w.) paid these rights with affection, love and kindness.
In paying right of being head of family, he (s.a.w.) first of all created the awareness that their duty was to establish Tauheed and offer worship of Allah the Exalted. Thus Hazrat Aisha (r.a.) said, Holy Prophet (s.a.w.) would wake up at night to offer Nawafil, and then would make us to wake at early morning by sprinkling some water so that we should offer Nawafil and worship of Allah the Exalted -- pay the right which is of Allah the Exalted.
How he (s.a.w.) would pay rights of his family….. He would give helping hand in the works which were of wives’. Hazrat Aisha (r.a.) said, the time he (s.a.w.) would be at home, he remained busy in helping and serving family till he was called for Salaat and he would to mosque.
This is the model which we have to follow, and should follow, not to adopt such attitude with wives which is akin to oppression.
Hazrat Aisha (r.a.) mentions details of his (s.a.w.) domestic works: He (s.a.w.) would sew his dress, stitch shoes and repair bucket etc.
By keeping these models in view, many husbands should make self-accountability and pay attention whether if they have these attitudes in homes.
Holy Prophet (s.a.w.) told Companions (r.a.) about duties of husband [tradition narrated by Hazrat Abu Hurairah (r.a.)] that Perfect in Eman is the one whose morals are the best and the best among you moral-wise is the one who is good for his ladies.
Everyone who does not do good behavior with his wives, should make self review since practicing good morals and good behavior with wives is not only apparent moral. Rather he said, it is the sign of elevation of Eman.
Hazrat Promised Messiah (on whom be peace) mentions duties of husband and good conduct with wives, he (a.s.) said that Except fohasha [abomination, indecency, obscenity], all weaknesses-in-morals and bitter-nesses of women should be borne. We consider it complete shamelessness that, being man, to fight with woman. We are made man by God and it is actually completion of bounty for us. Thankfulness for this is that we should behave with women with courtesy and kindness.
Once a member’s harsh-temperedness and ill-talk was mentioned that he treats his wife with rudeness. Hazrat Promised Messiah (a.s.) became very sad with this thing. He said: Our friends should not be like this…….[The narrator wrote that] After that Huzur (a.s.) talked for a long time about good living with women and at the end he (a.s.) said: My state is that once I spoke loud to my wife and I felt that loud voice was mixed with sorrow of heart. Except it, I did not utter any harsh sentence. Despite that, I continued to say a lot of Istighfar and offered Nawafil with a lot of humbleness, and offered some charity, that this harshness to spouse is due to any hidden wrongness against God.
This is the model of Hazrat Promised Messiah (a.s.). He expressed his deep concern and pain when a friend acted harshly. He (a.s.) advised that the people who quarrel and hit wives for little matters, these people should come in senses….Those who wound wives, they have to think seriously. According to Holy Prophet (s.a.w.) the Eman of these people is not perfect….They should be worried about their Eman…..Due to this saying of Holy Prophet (s.a.w.), Hazrat Promised Messiah (a.s.) was worried if someone does not have those high levels of Eman he can stumble over at many places.
Apparently, these things seems small, but these are not small. In the advanced countries matters reach to police, then Jama'at gets ill repute. Such people get worldly punishment and displeasure of Allah the Exalted…….Some husband say, wife has this and that weakness that is why he has to be strict. Men should make self reviews from this angle first. Do they fulfill the standard of deen?
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