I think it is well established that our society's conception of masculinity emphasizes aggression, dominance and cold detachment from our emotions and that this negatively affects women as part of the male power structure and its ideology. This same pattern of social organization, personal behavior and beliefs also has self destructive consequences on men.
On a personal level, I find myself conflicted over whether to fit the "bad boy" stereotype and how to support feminism. On the one hand, there is something liberating and exciting about being the rebel, and I think the truth is that being the rogue is more exciting both to be and to be around. (your welcome to tell me I'm wrong). On the other hand, it contains the danger of embracing destructive and self-destructive conceptions of masculinity, as well as sexually objectifying women in which promiscuity and sexual conquest is a demonstration of male dominance. It doesn't help as a bisexual that most concepts of masculinity are often implicitly bi and homophobic either.
So I was wondering, in an ideal world what masculine self-concept would feminists suggest men aspire and live up to? Or better still would would a feminist bad boy be like to be around?
On a personal level, I find myself conflicted over whether to fit the "bad boy" stereotype and how to support feminism. On the one hand, there is something liberating and exciting about being the rebel, and I think the truth is that being the rogue is more exciting both to be and to be around. (your welcome to tell me I'm wrong). On the other hand, it contains the danger of embracing destructive and self-destructive conceptions of masculinity, as well as sexually objectifying women in which promiscuity and sexual conquest is a demonstration of male dominance. It doesn't help as a bisexual that most concepts of masculinity are often implicitly bi and homophobic either.
So I was wondering, in an ideal world what masculine self-concept would feminists suggest men aspire and live up to? Or better still would would a feminist bad boy be like to be around?