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Father of Mine

Discussion in 'Member Announcements' started by jamaesi, Feb 20, 2007.

  1. michel

    michel Administrator Emeritus
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    jamaesi, you are not alone; you have your family here. I know that we can't do anything practical to help you, but we are behind you.

    If you need to talk, throw punches, well, you know where we all are. I am so sorry that you should have to face all this on your own.:hug:
     
  2. Peace

    Peace Quran & Sunnah

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    Sorry to hear that jamaesi! May Allah grant you patience and be with you to overcome this difficult time.

    Peace
     
  3. jacquie4000

    jacquie4000 Well-Known Member

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    I am so sorry you are going through such a rough time. If you need to talk more we are willing to listen we may not be able to solve all the issues but it is nice to know so many people do care. You and your father are in my thoughts.
     
  4. jamaesi

    jamaesi To Save A Lamb

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    One of my sisters just called me and said he's in liver failure and that it probably won't be... much longer. There's nothing they can do for that for him. If he does get out of the hopsital it won't be for months.

    Right now I'm trying to decide whether or not to agree to the DNR they're trying to put on him.
     
  5. MysticSang'ha

    MysticSang'ha Big Squishy Hugger
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    My dear sweet jamaesi..........:flower2:



    Despite all of this, you continue to remain strong and compassionate and perhaps the best person to actually call the shots as next of kin. I trust that with your strengths, this trying time will be less chaotic than if you were not involved.



    It sounds like your father needs you and your mindfulness to the situation's needs. And you need others for your own sanity. I have faith that the RF community is a very good place to turn to as well as others in your local community. Your SO can be depended upon, too.



    I hope you don't mind if I intend for my prayers to go in your direction for peace and clarity.



    OM MANI PADME HUM :flower:



    Peace,
    Mystic
     
  6. Hema

    Hema Sweet n Spicy

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    I'm sorry to hear about your dad. I'm disgusted to hear about the rivalry over his property. I went to a funeral recently and my dad was talking to a man who sells foodstuff at the cremation site. He told my dad that he once saw a man who was carrying a casket with one of his deceased parents and he dropped it to slam his sister against the food van.

    Your dad may not have made the best decisions but he is still your dad and it's good that you are there for him. You will be blessed. Remember that this material world is full of the duality of pleasure and pain. In God's realm, there is unending peace, love and joy. May his soul progress beautifully.
     
  7. jamaesi

    jamaesi To Save A Lamb

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    I just want to thank you all again for all the kind words and thoughts and prayers. I am so thankful for all of you.

    All this just... waiting, just waiting is starting to wear on me. Waiting for his condition to change for better or worse, waiting as family and doctors call me with more news, waiting for new decisions I need to make, just waiting. I jump whenever my cell rings and just hope to G-d it's not what I'm dreading it is. I had my phone on silent all night so I could get a little sleep and when I woke up I just had so many missed calls to return and worry over.
     
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  8. ayani

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    oh, dear. Jamaesi, prayers for you. may God grant you grace, pateince, and fortitude through this. please dear, take care of yourself in this. thank you for checking in with us. :flower2: Allah Ma'aq.
     
  9. jamaesi

    jamaesi To Save A Lamb

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    My family has already gone to every bank in our city looking for his assets.

    They found a college fund he made for me. I never even knew about it. It's in his and my name and they're trying to steal it. One of my sisters actually had a panic attack when she found out about it cause it was money she didnt have control over.
    He's not even dead yet.


    Here I am, having panic attacks because I'm so worried about him, and worried because the family keeps stressing me, worried because I have to make all kinds of decisions.
    They're worried about a few dollars that might slip out out of their greedy hands.
     
  10. MysticSang'ha

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    That is so sad that your family has taken it upon themselves to do battle. Find an estate attorney (best if your dad had one with a last will and testament), and hire one to protect your father's wishes. They can be of great benefit right now and will give you an outside and objective sense of protection given that you are going through an incredible emotional turmoil.



    Don't let their greed get the best of you. You have enough on your plate. :hug:




    Peace,
    Mystic
     
  11. jacquie4000

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    It is so sad at a time like this your family is worried about money. I remember being in that situation with my brother on my father's death bed my brother was asking my dad for the family business, not even worried about my mother. I know it is hard to block out family memebers like that and not to get angry, I am sure you will do the right thing. My thoughts are truely with you.
     
  12. maggie2

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    Dear Jamaesi,

    I'm so sorry to hear about your problems. It must be difficult to deal with and my heart goes out to you. Hang in there and know that many of us are sending lots of positive energy and prayers your way.
     
  13. Katzpur

    Katzpur Not your average Mormon

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    Oh, I'm so sorry. What an awful situation to find yourself in. My thoughts are with you!
     
  14. Feathers in Hair

    Feathers in Hair World's Tallest Hobbit

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    I admire the strength of anyone who has to go through such a situation, and especially with the added concerns about your relationship with him.
     
  15. standing_alone

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    Interesting how deaths can bring out the best and worst in people...

    Like Feathers, I really admire your remarkable strength and morality in this situation, Jamaesi. *more hugs*
     
  16. dawny0826

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    You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers.
     
  17. michel

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    Any update jamaesi ?
     
  18. Bastet

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    Talk about deja vu...

    The best I can offer you is: :hug:
     
  19. jamaesi

    jamaesi To Save A Lamb

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    This has got to be some sort of miracle. He's now out of the ICU and out of critical/grave condition and stable in a normal room. He's probably even going to be discharged tomorrow or sometime this week. He's still not in good shape- but from going from probably not going to make it... to being awake and communicating and discharged far before they said he would be is just... amazing. He also has sworn that this is it and he will stop drinking. I'm just... so happy. I can't even express this. I'm crying again, haha. But it's good.

    Thank you all so much for your thoughts and prayers and support through this. :group:
     
  20. lizskid

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    I am glad to hear this, your Dad is a lucky guy. Perhaps this time you've been given will help reconcile several things for you and your family. Praise be!
     
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