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A physiological interest rather than a sexual one, perhaps?
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I think you're reading too much into it. I don't think "with interest" was ever meant to read as "with sexual interest."I hope I did read it wrong, but you did say:
I am sure at one point he looked at me with interest
Not sure how else I can take that...
So you never remeber as a child seeing any part of your mother or father and looking at them with interest. It is obvious your mother had body parts that you did not so your telling me you would not be curious what they were...yes you are reading more into it then there is but that is up to you.
Ðanisty;787015 said:I think you're reading too much into it. I don't think "with interest" was ever meant to read as "with sexual interest."
Victor...one when did I say the interest took place when showering naked? Not that i see anything wrong with it but I never showered with my son naked. However when he was younger he did see me come out of the shower and see me naked and was curious or had interest. One you assumed we took showers together which i never stated. Two like I said a child will usually chose when they are ready to be private about their bodies should they chose to do so. How many families go to nudiest camps together. Funny there is no huge problem of incest what does that tell you? Maybe it is not such a big deal after all ..........just a thought.
I understand your thoughts Victor and can respect them. But I truely think if being naked around others were not made to be such a big deal or looked upon with shame as it can be it would not be a big deal to kids. Maybe by sheltering them to much we actually harm them. MY family had alot of friends from France going to these nudist camps were normal for them and the naked body was nothing to be ashamed about nor was their some major sexuall issues. It seems we have those more in the US where the naked body is such a big deal.
At what age do you think a father and daughter should quit showering together and why did you pick that age?
IF and when either one of them becomes sexually stimulated, they should quit showering together. But otherwise, I don't really see any problem with it. Even though it might be a bit unusual in our culture for a father to shower with his post-pubic daughter, that's just our culture, and has nothing to do with the appropriateness of it.
What he said. I don't have a daughter, but regularly shower with my 4yo son (a few times a week, maybe). He loves to shower with me like a "big boy". He showers with my wife on occasion too, though not as frequently. He occasionally makes a comment about some part of our bodies, but it is with the same innocence that he makes comments about bugs or cars or people out on the street. He's a curious little boy, and he's just learning new things continually. We're not nudists by any stretch of the imagination, but we don't think twice to walk around the house looking for clothes that may be in the dryer instead of the dresser. I can't say for certain that I'd feel the same if my child was a daughter instead of a son, but I like to think that I would.There can't be a "firm rule".......I guess, for me, the answer is "Go with the flow; when either of you feels uncomfortable, that's the time to stop".
I don't know. I think that's a bit young. I would think they should still be monitored at that age at the very least. I was taking baths by myself at the age of 6 though...I know that for sure.I think 'showing' with a kid is kind of weird. The kid can't even stand up - how is it supposed to shower. Playing in the bathtub on the other hand seems like it would be ok. I think that once a kid is one or two though they should probably not take baths/showers with adults.
I think the child will let you know. My son got to a certain age and things just changed, he was more private about his body around me. I think the time comes to them on their own.
At least as far as know - they could surprise us in ten years or so when they lie down on a therapists couch, and then we might discover how much we've messed them up.
Peace,
Mystic
Amen to that!
I wish there was a "How to be a parent" manual..........(but then again, all kids being different, I guess there ould never be one).
Talinkg of kids and "discoveries, and curiosities", I had a friend whose nephew was staying with him and his wife. One day my friend was doing some gardening, and his little nephew (about four and a half or five years old) came up to him and said "Uncle ********, I know the difference between little boys and little girls!"
Uncle ******** thought "O.K, I need to be careful here", and said "Oh that's clever of you, what is it?"
To which the little guy replied "Little girls have bottoms that go all the way round to the front":cover: .....I loved it.