Despite being a Christian I have a hard time with this concept. I think God's mercy , God's love wins out finally and puts an end to all evil. We just have to suffer longer until we wake up and then God says "enough, you can go through the narrow gate now".
I not sure I understand you. God's love has been demonstrated, but mankind have rejected it (Gospel of John Ch 3). If one rejects the love of God, what else can there be?
I hate seeing people having nightmares over this. its not right. its false teaching in my view. We need to emphasise God's mercy and love over punishments. especially eternal ones.
If there was no sanction for rejecting God, there would be no need for mercy. God may overlook sin in mercy, when sin is in genuine ignorance, and forgives all sins in Christ, but when the light of dawn comes and the sinner is determined to carry on sinning, what then? (cf. parable of the 10 virgins). There is no gospel without the consequences of rejecting the gospel. The gospel is not optional, but mandatory on mankind where it enjoins the command "repent or perish."
The church is not a debating society although so many have become just that, becoming modelled on democratic politics that is antithetical to the gospel, as given over to debate, humanistic notions of justice, and moral relativism. The gospel is not open to debate. It is not predicated upon an assumption that humanistic experimentation can always be put right, at a later date, if it goes wrong. The gospel is "right" and that gives it its authority. It doesn't require debate.
People are waking up to the fact that vast national debts will never be repaid and must be endlessly shifted onto future generations. For the human soul there is no-one to shift its debts onto if it continues to build up debt till the very end. All debts must be repaid on death. Death of the soul is the result if the soul is still bound by guilt.
With the soul versus God, it's the gospel or death. The gospel cannot be modelled on liberal political theory that allows people to carrying on a life of crime or agglomeration of debt, as if divinely protected from just retribution.
BTW most people who chose hell do not believe in its existence. They rather disbelieve in it, because they conceive theology as politics - just a game of shifting responsibility onto others.