Dreams and Kids...a question

[lucid dreamer]

I feel a bit silly posting...any help anyone can offer would be great--and I may be in the completely wrong forum, too, so sorry.

Okay: I have a 14 month old by a father who is, um, MIA. He identified with the Yaqui ways, so to speak, but...well, I didn't pay much attention. I'm not not spiritual...I just didn't listen much to him talking about those things. But he claimed to be able to visit people in "dreams" and he had a friend who was, supposedly, also capable of this and they would talk about things they did/saw "together" in dreams....um....so I never quite understood how that worked. He talked about his "guide," too, and there was some mention of some kind of thing about symbolic colors? I don't know. I'd say I digress, but it sort of serves a point:

Now my 14 m/o is only beginning to talk. My child has no significant father-figure--but at night has terrible nightmares I can't wake her from them...and she talks in her sleep and I listened closely recently and, with perfect clarity, she said, "hi daddy...[pause] ...what?" She doesn't have a huge vocabulary, anyway...definitely no "daddy" being in it...

Any input? I signed up for this site solely to ask this question and I've learned a lot in my "quest" about some things... if anyone has anything to add, even if only to say "you're crazy"--it would be appreciated. Thanks.

 

[Darkwater]

I had a telepathic link to my 8 year old when he was younger,now it is not so strong & he has surpassed me in many ways already.

I know have a 3 year old too,he is thriving also.The 8 week & 1 day old is perhaps the greatest yet.All boys.I can explain their own progress as best as I can which would take a while.

It is useful if they wake up crying in the next room,I can send them *pictures* which make them laugh & talk,letting me/my wife have the last wee precious minutes in the duvet with eyes closed before they come through.

From my experience I would say the guy/his GA maybe comes in animal form to protect the child,sometimes child can be scared of the *protection* until it is more familiar & can confidently us his/her will to great effect.

Sorry if this is not the kind of answer you are seeking.

Great love,

DW.

 

[painted wolf]

It may just be psychology.
Kids have very active minds, doubly so in areas of imagination and creative thought.
They are also unconscious sponges, taking in cues on all levels.

I would be hesitant to draw any conclusions from this activity.

wa:do

 

[CelticRavenwolf]

Just wanted to say that I read your post, and while I have nothing relevant to say, I was certainly intrigued by it.

From a completely non-spiritual point of view, toddlers and young children can be afflicted with periods of nightmares, and is not completely uncommon. Stress is often a factor - is there anything going on at home or in her direct environment that could be causing her undue stress? Are you stressed out to the point that she might be feeding off of you?

Eating before going to bed is said to encourage nightmares, particularly sugary foods. If that's an issue that might help too. In the end, small children usually outgrow their periods of nightmares within a few months.

From a spiritual standpoint, I don't know anything about Yaqui beliefs, but I do know that dreams are a very important part of all Native American spirituality. It's kind of eerie to think that a guy would take off on his child but use dreams to try to communicate with an 18-month old child. Sounds cruel to me, because what could he possibly be communicating to a child that young that they would understand? Anything beyond the simplest of emotions would be overkill, which is clearly is if the child is becoming that upset and 'trapped' in her dreams.

It also couldn't hurt to hang a dreamcatcher above her crib, somewhere that sunlight can hit it in the morning. Perhaps it will help to trap or block any negative or frightening images that are being passed to her.

 

[CelticRavenwolf]

Also, a small sachet of aniseed placed under the pillow is also said to block intrusion into dreams.

Couldn't hurt!

 

[YmirGF]

Now my 14 m/o is only beginning to talk. My child has no significant father-figure--but at night has terrible nightmares I can't wake her from them...and she talks in her sleep and I listened closely recently and, with perfect clarity, she said, "hi daddy...[pause] ...what?" She doesn't have a huge vocabulary, anyway...definitely no "daddy" being in it...

Any input? I signed up for this site solely to ask this question and I've learned a lot in my "quest" about some things... if anyone has anything to add, even if only to say "you're crazy"--it would be appreciated. Thanks.

I don't think you are crazy for starters. The truth is, we know very little about dreams and you will get answers that are all over the board as evidenced in this thread. What I would advise is if the information given to you in a response just don't seem reasonable, simply ignore the comments. Personally, I cannot support anything stated in this thread responding to your Opening Post.

My advice is to simply watch and do not put too much into the whole thing. Given that the child is only now beginning to learn to speak, it is unlikely that they will be able to give a very accurate account of what is contained within her dreams.

Try to remain neutral and neither encourage them or discourage them. Just be supportive of her. I think the main thing is to just wait and see. I would hope that you will keep us updated.

 

[zenzero]

Friend lucid dreamer,
Like most have no ideas about dreams but this is a fact that we are reborn and some have recollection of their past lives. Many proven instants are recorded in India where a child remembers his last life and has been found to be true about places, relationships etc.
Similarly it may be possible that this child has some memories from his past life and could have been close to his daddy.
Sure over time this is be forgotten and new linakages of the present will take over.
Nothing to worry about.
Love & rgds

 

[lucid dreamer]

Thanks all...well, I tend to be pragmatic, and, admittedly, and fairly...cynical? I guess sleep deprivation took hold and I'm desperate, a bit, to understand the whole thing. The ideas of stress, etc. are very helpful. I am stressed. Extremely so. I know she must be aware of that. The past-life linkage is an interesting concept...I suppose it could be a sort of "protector" of sorts, too...as for my own spirituality, I'm not really a believer in any one particular thing, so I remain open. I know her father was a huge believer in spiritual protectors, etc. but I don't seem him really giving a **** one way or another...cruel, as one of you said, is true. Cruel to my child, and to me. Painted Wolf, I agree..I shouldn't jump to conclusions...it's just so strange to watch her "trapped" in these dreams. Thanks again--I feel better

 

[Darkwater]

I know how you feel,my 3 year old has the worst case of chickenpox I have ever seen.

Maybe not your b/f personally,his oversoul though...so *him* or the larger him.

Tell her to be brave with whatever it is & that it is there to help her.You can banish it too,in love.

Ross's(my oldest) eventually took a form which mimicked his every move eventually till he trained it & uses it.

Get your kid to name it & draw it when she can.

Kids are great.

 

[painted wolf]

Or let it subside and don't feed it.

over reacting to something of this nature can feed into the subconscious of the child and drive the dreams further.

wa:do