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Discussion in 'Interfaith Discussion' started by Conscious thoughts, Sep 22, 2021.

  1. Conscious thoughts

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    Pushing the limits of your own being may not be a good idea. This line come from a friend of mine :)

    It was something he said during a discussion we had, and it stuck in my mind. Watching my own spiritual journey. To me, it means that as a practitioner of Sufism, it is a fine line between practicing correctly and safely and going into the extreme both ways. Not too lazy and not too much force into the extreme and very difficult part of seclusion, only being alone and so on.
    Admittingly I have been a bit too much on the path toward an extreme side of me again :oops: But this time I cathed myself before it went wrong. And still am in a very good place in life right now.

    In your life, is there something you do that you thinking of as being too extreme? and you wish to change it, but maybe don't know how to do it alone?
     
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  2. The Hammer

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    I am passionate about the things that matter to me. Sometimes more then necessary.

    Change? *Shrug* probably not. I'm stubborn.
     
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    Maybe stubbornness is what makes it difficult to reach deeper wisdom :confused:
     
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    Yeah, feeding all these wild animals who have now taken over my property. :eek:

    That's not all, but that is what is most problematic right now. I love all animals so I am in between a rock and a hard place. :( When one starts to hate what one loved it is time to take a step back.
     
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    Probably not, lol.
     
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    Stubbornness is a fault many have(myself included). And stubbornness can not only hold people back from their potential, it can very well make them miss opportunities.
     
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  7. Conscious thoughts

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    You have to work on that stubbornness of yours :D
     
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    I saw 'don't over do it' when I was about to go back for more cereal... thanks. You stopped me from a belly ache... I always overdo cereal, and make myself ill.

    But I won't go back for more, just because your post seemed to leap out at me...

    Honestly, I have problems with overeating. I don't really graze or anything, but once I sit down for a meal, I don't seem to be able to stop myself until all the food is gone. I am trying to make less food so there is less stuff leftover that I will inevitably eat when everyone else steps away from the table.
     
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    Very welcome :)
    Sometimes a message stands out to us, even others may not even notice it.
     
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    I don't see stubbornness as a curse to be rid of, but a tool to be wielded. ;)
     
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    Uhmmmm :confused: Strange dude :D
     
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    It can be both
     
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    I can be pretty stubborn, too, but I've learned to do it only in places it matters.
     
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    Holy crap, you sound like my wife. She's stubborn af, and has been trying to convince me (and now our daughters) that this is actually a good thing.
    But, of course, she's not having to live with a stubborn woman...lol
     
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    In fairness, the same instincts that become stubborness also likely manifest as 'stickability' in a more positive sense.
     
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    Don't tell me you gonna do a wife swap with @The Hammer so you get a nonstubborn wife o_O:confused:
     
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    Nah...I'll keep mine.
    I don't think I'd know how to handle any different flavour at this point.

    (We've been together for almost 26 years)
     
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    Stubborn is in the perception of others, perhaps. Another term could be "sticking to one's principles."
     
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    Yes. My mind has obsessive tendencies. If it finds something fascinating or gratifying, it wants to go all-in. In some cases, it was productive, in others, it was detrimental. And sometimes it was productive to one aspect of my life while detrimental to another.

    Once I recognized this, it was much easier to catch myself tending toward obsessive behaviors, assess the effects of the behavior in a given scenario, and if they were not productive as a whole, adjust them.
     
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    I use the term 'will' for that. It's an amazing gift. Think of all the habits people wish to break, but can't.
     
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