Mystical/religious/spiritual experiences are part of many different traditions and practices. They are preternatural occurrences or something extraordinary that happens to us. In the context of religion, this could mean communication with the gods, practicing spellcraft or divination, involvement with the occult, and so on. Throughout history, mystical experiences have mostly been accepted or regarded as common. In the contemporary West, however, we are taught to shun such experiences. If someone shares a mystical experience, they must be lying to get attention, under the influence of substances, mentally ill, or have some other fault that allows us to dismiss what they are saying. Put another way, our culture engages in aggressive gaslighting when it comes to mystical experiences.
Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation or mind control that seeks to sow doubt in someone or make them question their sanity. It's specific goal is to delegitimize the victim's beliefs. This is done incessantly to the spiritual and religious who have remarkable experiences; so much so that most of us hesitate to talk about it at all or even gaslight ourselves about it. It's a problem that isn't going to go away any time soon, and I thought I'd give us a space to discuss this a bit. If you've ever had mystical experiences and found yourself to be a victim of gaslighting, you are welcome to share your experiences and advice here.
This thread is inspired in part by an essay I read that has some good advice to share on how we can learn to trust our mystical experiences in a culture that constantly gaslights us. The following list of tips is inspired by that essay (see the full article here - Learning to Trust Your Experiences):
Please note I put this thread in this DIR for two reasons: (1) I want this to be a safe space for the victims of gaslighting to discuss their experiences with it; (2) this DIR is inclusive of anyone who has had mystical experiences and wants to discuss them. In other words, I've zero interest in pandering to gaslighters in this thread and welcome thoughts from LHP occultists, Christian mystics, paranormal witnesses, Pagan oracles, atheist seers, shamanic practitioners, spellcasters, or anyone else who has experienced weird and wonderful things. I may or may not create a sister thread on this topic in a debate area, but if someone else wants to, you have my permission.
Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation or mind control that seeks to sow doubt in someone or make them question their sanity. It's specific goal is to delegitimize the victim's beliefs. This is done incessantly to the spiritual and religious who have remarkable experiences; so much so that most of us hesitate to talk about it at all or even gaslight ourselves about it. It's a problem that isn't going to go away any time soon, and I thought I'd give us a space to discuss this a bit. If you've ever had mystical experiences and found yourself to be a victim of gaslighting, you are welcome to share your experiences and advice here.
This thread is inspired in part by an essay I read that has some good advice to share on how we can learn to trust our mystical experiences in a culture that constantly gaslights us. The following list of tips is inspired by that essay (see the full article here - Learning to Trust Your Experiences):
- Know yourself. Being aware of your own skills and biases is critical when it comes to being discerning with our mystical experiences. For example, if you know your inner voice well it's pretty easy to tell when a voice is your own and when it might be one of the gods or a spirit.
- Put interpretation on hold. It's normal for us to immediately start interpreting our experiences, but with mystical experiences it is very important to step back and simply observe without judging. Resist the urge to immediately label and categorize your experience, especially if it's a new and unfamiliar one.
- Consider ordinary causes. Thinking about mundane explanations is always a good call when it comes to mystical experiences. Gaslighters will often point at this in particular as a way to invalidate our experiences, so if you've already given it due consideration, it builds self-trust.
- Know your values. When you start getting into interpretation, knowing your virtues and values is key as it shapes your approach. This serves as a check against influences from mystical sources that might be lying or not have you (or others) best interests at heart.
- Experience helps. The more you have mystical experiences, the more you are able to trust yourself to be discerning in approaching them. It's like riding a bike - the first few times it's rough but after a while you can and do get the hang of it.
- Mental health is a spectrum. Nobody has perfect mental health, but if you have no history of hallucinations, odds are what you experienced wasn't one. Mystical experiences and mental health challenges are not mutually exclusive... but navigating both at the same time is difficult.
Please note I put this thread in this DIR for two reasons: (1) I want this to be a safe space for the victims of gaslighting to discuss their experiences with it; (2) this DIR is inclusive of anyone who has had mystical experiences and wants to discuss them. In other words, I've zero interest in pandering to gaslighters in this thread and welcome thoughts from LHP occultists, Christian mystics, paranormal witnesses, Pagan oracles, atheist seers, shamanic practitioners, spellcasters, or anyone else who has experienced weird and wonderful things. I may or may not create a sister thread on this topic in a debate area, but if someone else wants to, you have my permission.