John's delusion is such that he requires a therapist. That means it causes a dysfunction in his life. When looking at a religion, just because you don't see things through the same set of eyes, interpret things in that language or symbol set, that means that they are "wrong" in the sense that it causes them to be dysfunctional.
I was more saying that a therapist is not discrediting his or her client's reality for thinking that her client is wrong. She acknowledging what is right for him "and" she knows he is wrong about what he says. That's the context of the comparison.
"By their fruits you shall know them", really is the gauge as to the "truth" of how they believe things. Not "By their beliefs or ideas, you shall know them". No legitimate therapist would call someone who merely thought differently than themselves as dysfunctional.
Its less about the therapist and client relationship and more about one person not discrediting another but still acknowledge the other person is wrong.
What would be better would be to say that other persons views are wrong for themselves. If how the other person is seeing things is beneficial to them, then it's not really wrong, but just different. If it is causing themselves and others pain and sickness, then yes, you can and should call it wrong. The Phelps family with their message of hate, for instance, are in fact very wrong. "By their fruits you shall know them."
Wrong for themselves? How would we know that? Wouldn't we only know it's wrong when comparing it to our criteria of truth and how we see reality?
In the OP case, I wouldn't say pain and suffering is involved. But yeah, it would be wrong (to the person who holds those ethics) if one person causes another person pain and their justification for doing so. Actually, this brings up a good point on pain and suffering. Some pain and suffering, the justification of such, is in the eye of the beholder when it comes to morality.
When talking about religious views, there is no 'right or wrong' in any absolute sense, but rather good or bad in a beneficial sense. Within that religious system and its beliefs and doctrines, one can be right or wrong according to that standard set by the group.
For instance, the group says God is a golden monkey, and you say he is a yellow cat. That is a wrong answer to that particular doctrine. But is that doctrine or belief absolute? Does someone have proof God is a golden monkey?
Yes. But many people won't say "you are wrong because god is not an golden monkey." I find it alright to say this, but maybe it's challenging that person's conviction that he or she believes so. It would be wise to say "you are wrong 'because...'" but either way, if its not done to discredit the other, its just respecting each person's opinion about each other.
But why can't people say the other is wrong when (in the OP) it's talking about their theology?
Even saying "you are wrong about your interpretation" isn't challenging the person's conviction. Maybe the other has the wrong interpretation and the only way he can recognize it is if someone pointed it out. (As a therapist would with cognitive distortions). Of course, it depends on the relationship both parties have, possibility and their patience level.
In other words, right and wrong, are relative to the system defining the parameters. But by what standard is the system itself considered right or wrong? The only one I can come up with is this. "By their fruits you shall know them". Does it benefit those who follow it? Does it lead to life and goodness, or does it lead to death and dysfunction?
Its by our own standards. For example, a abrahamic god believer may tell a non-believer he or she is wrong about god's non-existence.
That is fine because it's just telling the NB his opinion about the other person's conclusion of god's existence. His parameters or criteria would be his religious god-supporting theology. It would make sense that he would see the other is wrong.
Likewise, if someone believed in reincarnation and the other heaven, setting aside personal preference in language, saying the other is wrong isn't rude but saying it just doesn't jive with their personal view and criteria of reality. Which is perfectly fine in a civilized conversation.
Because it presumes you are God, or have ownership of the Divine stuffed into your particular box of theologies. I think it is safe to say that those who do presume that to be the case, are in fact wrong. They presume as a finite limited creature, to be absolute and infinite. And that, truly, is a dysfunction. It leads to illness, not health and wellbeing.
I can see why you say it presumes you are god (or in general, it presumes we know everything). Wouldn't depend on the context though?
Saying you're wrong doesn't mean we know everything. It's just voicing our opinion based on our criteria that conflicts with another.
You can say it's wrong for you. But for him it may be right. Truth for the individual is relative to who they are at that time in their lives. They may have been a believer, and it was truth then, but now they are not and that is truth now.
True. But when you say "you are wrong" the message depends on how the other takes it. If they take it objectively, of course the other could be wrong too. If they take it as an opinion based on the other person's criteria of reality, then I'd say your statement doesn't quite relate.
We can't look at religion the same way we look at getting correct answers on a math quiz, though I know a great many people do view God as the Cosmic Quizmaster. There are right and wrong answers to concrete things like math problems.
But the idea is that if you believe god exists and the other person does not, for you (I think?) if god is a fact/like math, by default if someone else says opposite, they would be wrong.
Saying that depends on the person, but wrong nonetheless.
But there are not concrete answers to things like meaning and value, or moralities, and such. The world of lived reality is not a physics problem. And God is more Light, which can be seen from multiple perspectives, through a spectrum of beliefs, where they can in fact be more than one "right answer".
I related right and wrong with moralities (how we see reality in respect to others) rather than fact and fiction or being correct or incorrect as in math.